I don't know the exact reason for it but I have always been attracted to women older than myself. I think a great deal of people out there are attracted to others that fall outside the status quo yet fail to act on it for their own reasons. The best relationship I ever had was with a 45 yo. woman when I was 27. That was 5 years ago and I think about her still nearly every day. Reasons we are not still together are too complicated to get into. I bring this particular relationship up b/c had I known then what I have learned over the last 5 years I would have found a way to make it work. I honestly think people just don't give themselves the credit they deserve. If you find something appealing, there is a reason for it. There is no reason not to take a chance. Everyone has been rejected, everyone has been hurt. The pain of 100 simple intro rejections is worth a minute finding that right person. I keep telling myself that there is nothing to lose by admitting my true feelings. By not admitting them the loss occurrs.
What I have found most disappointing is the number of ladies I met who fail to give themselves enough credit. More disappointedly are those who enjoy talking and being with younger men but can't or won't break societal rules. W have enough rules to live by. Alot are in place for good reason but who we find attractive should not be something governed by rules. If I convince anyone to to take a chance then I feel like I succeeded here. It may work out, it may not. At the end of the book I generally like to read the final page. So take the plunge, guys and gals- follow what your brain is telling you and see what happens. The worst outcome is you fall too quickly for Mr. or Mrs. wrong. I just don't see this as a catastrophy. You tried, no go, it might sting a little or a lot but you will pick yourself up. Nobody cares how many times we fail. Everyone wants to know the people capable of picking themselves back up. To all those out there who have fallen, been hurt only to take on the next relationship I applaud you. Feelings are tricky and they can get you wrapped up in meaningless past events and regret. If we learned anything was there not some benefit? Were there not some good times? I've actually seen a broken heart. I don't beleive they exist. Wounded hearts are real but with the right attitude they can mend faster than we think.
Go out and take a chance. Regrets are a reminder of what could have been so stop taking them on. In the end there are lots of reasons I think age gap relations are not pursued. I just wish that those critics had any form of justifyable reason for discouraging it.
That's all I got for now.
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