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Quoting HotProfDude:
Listed below are a few quotes that I think will help guys. I still see a lot of desparate men out there who try too hard to "win over" a woman's affection. I didn't write these quotes. My friend Jeff gets the credit.
Read 'em and learn:
"Most girls don't go to clubs to meet guys. They go there to be entertained by them.If you're going to go to clubs to run game, you should treat it as entertainment as well. Allow yourself to be larger than life, and don't even sweat the bitchy-type women. After all, if a girl acts that way to a total stranger, how valid can her behavior be? The bitchy ones sometimes become sweet if you tease em a bit and then engage them in conversation about THEMSELVES. And, if you can get them to HATE you early on, you will have an easier time 'turning the tide,' so to speak. It sounds counterintuitive, but that's a chick in a club for ya."
"If a girl rejects you, you should pretend not to care- even if you do. Some girls may even TRY to get a reaction out of you- don't give them the satisfaction. Just ignore them and move onto other girls. This is the ONLY POSSIBLE WAY you can maintain high value and (possibly, if unlikely) build interest in the face of rejection. Even if she thinks it's an act, it still works by demonstrating that you have control over your emotions and won't let one silly girl deter you from approaching other women."
"It is AMAZING how effective silence is when a girl calls/texts you and cancels a date. Not responding to a cancellation is one of those things that guys with a ton of options do instinctively- they don't give closure when a girl flakes; they just move on to the next. Even replying with "ok" has a negative effect on a girl's interest level. No response should ALWAYS be your default. It's lamentable that basic human courtesy works against you in such cases, but that's just how it is." "Girls enter into rebound situations with full expectation of dumping the guy once they know that he's willing to commit. Don't let her do this to you- remain a challenge and confound her expectations. Go hot and cold on her. Have days when you don't return her calls/texts, become suddenly unavailable, etc. She may try to push for you to become exclusive; do not accept this for a few months- until you can be sure that you are more than an ego boost for her."
"Don't make the assumption that the best way to keep her thinking about you is by contacting her/ sending her texts. Did you ever text a girl and get absolutely no response? Did that make you think about her more or less? It works the same way for girls- strategically ignoring them for a few days gets them wondering whether or not you've lost interest in them, and that subsequently raises their own interest. 'Striking when the iron is hot' means acting when she's HIGHLY interested in you. Did her actions indicate that she couldn't wait to see you again- even the very next day? Did she text you on her own accord to 'fish' for you to ask her out again? Did she invite you to do something with her before she left? If so, then contacting her will do no harm. However, it's more likely that after a first date, she enjoyed being with you and found you attractive, but isn't at the point where she desires you wildly. Showing too much eagerness now will prevent her from reaching that point, as she assures herself that you're ALREADY highly interested in her and thus not a challenge. The odds of seeing her again are better if she assumes that you forgot about her in the meantime. Girls are hyper sensitive to ANY display of neediness in a new suitor- even a harmless text will come off as supplication."
"Showing too much interest sets the frame that you are 'chasing' her. This is going to turn her off. Trying to 'maintain contact' is going to work against you, too. You should instead wait until you get CLEAR signs of investment on her part before you tell her you'd like to see her again. You want to keep her guessing- that is what builds interest."
"If approaching a woman whom you've never met before is making you feel bad about yourself, you shouldn't do it. You absolutely HAVE to view it as a game, and not as something that reflects on you in any way. Remember- none of these girls knows you on any level, and therefore can't judge you in any way. Most of the rejections come from the fact that 'cold approaching' isn't normal. In fact, cold approaching is HARD. Most of the time, interactions go nowhere and there's nothing you can do about it. Because of this, it is absolutely essential that you do TONS of cold approaches and be willing to accept rejections. It's not a good model for everyone, and if you feel like the rejections are getting to you, abandon it and work on building a social circle instead. Most guys that have success at cold approach pickup are NOT chatting up girls in the pharmacy, Walmart, etc. The best places to do cold approaches are on your own 'turf'- a venue where you have some social proof. That's why it is best to pick ONE venue and try to make friends with the staff, regulars, etc. before worrying about cold approaches-- it truly makes things THAT much easier. How is your social life besides pickup? Do you have a number of friends that like to go out and do things? This is very important."
Listed below are a few quotes that I think will help guys. I still see a lot of desparate men out there who try too hard to "win over" a woman's affection. I didn't write these quotes. My friend Jeff gets the credit.
Read 'em and learn:
"Most girls don't go to clubs to meet guys. They go there to be entertained by them.If you're going to go to clubs to run game, you should treat it as entertainment as well. Allow yourself to be larger than life, and don't even sweat the bitchy-type women. After all, if a girl acts that way to a total stranger, how valid can her behavior be? The bitchy ones sometimes become sweet if you tease em a bit and then engage them in conversation about THEMSELVES. And, if you can get them to HATE you early on, you will have an easier time 'turning the tide,' so to speak. It sounds counterintuitive, but that's a chick in a club for ya."
"If a girl rejects you, you should pretend not to care- even if you do. Some girls may even TRY to get a reaction out of you- don't give them the satisfaction. Just ignore them and move onto other girls. This is the ONLY POSSIBLE WAY you can maintain high value and (possibly, if unlikely) build interest in the face of rejection. Even if she thinks it's an act, it still works by demonstrating that you have control over your emotions and won't let one silly girl deter you from approaching other women."
"It is AMAZING how effective silence is when a girl calls/texts you and cancels a date. Not responding to a cancellation is one of those things that guys with a ton of options do instinctively- they don't give closure when a girl flakes; they just move on to the next. Even replying with "ok" has a negative effect on a girl's interest level. No response should ALWAYS be your default. It's lamentable that basic human courtesy works against you in such cases, but that's just how it is." "Girls enter into rebound situations with full expectation of dumping the guy once they know that he's willing to commit. Don't let her do this to you- remain a challenge and confound her expectations. Go hot and cold on her. Have days when you don't return her calls/texts, become suddenly unavailable, etc. She may try to push for you to become exclusive; do not accept this for a few months- until you can be sure that you are more than an ego boost for her."
"Don't make the assumption that the best way to keep her thinking about you is by contacting her/ sending her texts. Did you ever text a girl and get absolutely no response? Did that make you think about her more or less? It works the same way for girls- strategically ignoring them for a few days gets them wondering whether or not you've lost interest in them, and that subsequently raises their own interest. 'Striking when the iron is hot' means acting when she's HIGHLY interested in you. Did her actions indicate that she couldn't wait to see you again- even the very next day? Did she text you on her own accord to 'fish' for you to ask her out again? Did she invite you to do something with her before she left? If so, then contacting her will do no harm. However, it's more likely that after a first date, she enjoyed being with you and found you attractive, but isn't at the point where she desires you wildly. Showing too much eagerness now will prevent her from reaching that point, as she assures herself that you're ALREADY highly interested in her and thus not a challenge. The odds of seeing her again are better if she assumes that you forgot about her in the meantime. Girls are hyper sensitive to ANY display of neediness in a new suitor- even a harmless text will come off as supplication."
"Showing too much interest sets the frame that you are 'chasing' her. This is going to turn her off. Trying to 'maintain contact' is going to work against you, too. You should instead wait until you get CLEAR signs of investment on her part before you tell her you'd like to see her again. You want to keep her guessing- that is what builds interest."
"If approaching a woman whom you've never met before is making you feel bad about yourself, you shouldn't do it. You absolutely HAVE to view it as a game, and not as something that reflects on you in any way. Remember- none of these girls knows you on any level, and therefore can't judge you in any way. Most of the rejections come from the fact that 'cold approaching' isn't normal. In fact, cold approaching is HARD. Most of the time, interactions go nowhere and there's nothing you can do about it. Because of this, it is absolutely essential that you do TONS of cold approaches and be willing to accept rejections. It's not a good model for everyone, and if you feel like the rejections are getting to you, abandon it and work on building a social circle instead. Most guys that have success at cold approach pickup are NOT chatting up girls in the pharmacy, Walmart, etc. The best places to do cold approaches are on your own 'turf'- a venue where you have some social proof. That's why it is best to pick ONE venue and try to make friends with the staff, regulars, etc. before worrying about cold approaches-- it truly makes things THAT much easier. How is your social life besides pickup? Do you have a number of friends that like to go out and do things? This is very important."
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