Age Blogs and Age Stories - AgeMatch.com > Thematurelover's blogs > Older Women/Younger Men?
Older Women/Younger Men? Sort by:
Author
thematurelover
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 1
Posted on Mon, Aug 07, 2006 21:36

Greetings All, This is something I posted on my profile on my space page and got alot of responses too...maybe some of you would be interested? Check it out and see what you think. I will post the question I had first and then the conclusion I came up with...tell me ladies...if I'm right. --------Question-------- Hello Ladies and Gentlemen, I am back again, this time to stimulate your mind with another thought. I have been thinking about this issue for some time now, so I have decided to ask the people on my friends list their opinion. Why is it more acceptable for Older Men to be with Younger Women, than it is for Older Women to be with Younger Men ? Give me your opinions and thoughts, share with me, I am curious to know from a lady's perspective and even men if you're reading this. Have a Great Day, -Josh -------Conclusion------- Greetings Ladies and Gentlemen I would like to thank all you who participated by sharing your thoughts, opinions and experiences. Your input has given me much insight and many different conclusions: for the sake of time I have summarized the ones I feel are the most important. 1st- The majority of women who responded say the reason it is not more acceptable for a older woman to be a with a younger man is because men are still the rulers of the world. Men still make most of the decisions that affect all of our lives. Historically, women were never viewed as equals to men, but were viewed as lesser and treated as such. Even today, if a woman tries to do what a man does (business, sports, politics, etc.) she is viewed as a threat to the men in power. Today's society is still "sexist" in its attitudes toward women and their actions and even though it has improved greatly, it is still there. For example, if a woman is single and succesful and "doing her own thing", she may be called a "bad woman". If she dates multiple men, she would be viewed as a "bad woman", where as a man is called a "player". Which is a good thing for a man, but a negative for a woman. 2nd- The overwhelming majority of responses say that age is just a number. If two people like each other, get along together- and enjoy each others company, what does age matter, as long as they are having fun. So women don't view men's age as a problem, the problem is the maturity level of that particular man. 3rd- From your responses as women get closer to their late thirties and early forties, start to reach their "sexual peak". Yes, sex is part of life so don't offended..how else did you get on this earth. Many of your responses said that younger guys are more active and fun to be with. The responses on older men say- they are couch potatoes and don't have enough stamina to keep up with them. Funny...but apparently true. So, older women are attracted to younger men for those qualities, among other things. 4th- The Downsides: Apparently, some younger men view the older women as a "notch on their belt" or "older women they have hooked up with". In general some women don't mind this, but most do, so this is also a negative. Also, the maturity level- women mature faster than men. Younger men may not be as stable or mature in their thoughts as older men are. This is a primary reason why younger women desire older men. They are more relationship oriented and more likely to be stable in life, etc. Finally, trying to build a relationship with a younger man is more difficult because of the maturity level, not the age. You can be 40 and have the mind of a 20 year old and vice versa. Now, since I didn't see any male perspectives, I will share some of my thoughts on this topic with you. First, I was surprised to see how many of you responded to this question/topic. I have noticed that it is more acceptable for older men to be with younger women. I see it everyday. I don't see as many younger men with older women though. It's true, that it is becoming more acceptable in today's society- just look at some of the terms many women are using on their my space profiles...Milf and Cougar for example. Both of these words and concepts have made it more acceptable for older women to have relationships with younger men, meaning, they have helped it become more mainstream. They even have websites devoted to the subjects, so that tells you it is becoming more acceptable. In my opinion, it shouldn't matter It is up to the people involved in the relationship to decide what's best. If the man and woman like each other, then isn't that enough. I think women want to love someone, have relationships and settle down, especially when they get older and more mature in their thoughts and actions. Some girls and women just wanna have fun, and apparently that is a quality that younger men have. All women want to go out and enjoy themselves- in and out of the bedroom- and if it takes a younger man to bring out her fun side then so be it. We all want courtship, companionship and stimulation and it really shouldn't matter who it comes from. So I say...do what makes YOU happy! Take care, Josh ------------------------------ I hope you enjoyed...let me know what you think.


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
TheBadAppple19
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 1
Posted on Mon, Oct 29, 2007 14:23

Hey whats going on...youre a cutieeee damn. Bobby

Available only
to logged in members

Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
michaelyan
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 3
Posted on Tue, Sep 11, 2007 22:31

Yes, I think so. good


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 07:59

Wenn you happy me too.big kissss for you.What to do or have tonightdiferent plan


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 07:57

Wenn you happy me too.big kissss for you.What to do or have tonightdiferent plan


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 07:56

Wenn you happy me too.big kissss for you.What to do or have tonightdiferent plan


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 07:56

Wenn you happy me too.big kissss for you.What to do or have tonightdiferent plan


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Tue, Aug 07, 2007 07:56

Wenn you happy me too.big kissss for you.What to do or have tonightdiferent plan


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Mon, Aug 06, 2007 23:36

hi.you very nice vomen.Now is you my dreams


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Mon, Aug 06, 2007 23:27

hi.you very nice vomen.Now is you my dreams


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Mon, Aug 06, 2007 23:24

hi.you very nice vomen.Now is you my dreams


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Mon, Aug 06, 2007 23:12

Re: helena2006 write: I was very interested by input and analysis of the answers to your questions. Many times I have been out in public with a younger man and people (usually women) assume he must be my son. I have no problem in responding that he is my partner although the male of the species tends to not want to address this issue. Perhaps your assumption that men still control everything accounts for older man/younger woman being more acceptable as a coupling. The older man however tires more rapidly than the older woman who now knows there will be no unwanted pregnancies resulting from the sexual liaison. She is totally liberated to experience and experiment without the aid of viagra. It is also true historically that women used to die from exhuastion (childbearing, rigours of homesteading etc.) and men would frequently marry 2-3 decades younger for a support mate. At the time it was a mutual necessity to do this but advent of the pill, improved status of health and physical wellbeing of Western women has meant they too have changed their focus. How many of us know middle-aged friends who have tired of caring for a lazy husband and have divorced only to go on to other women or to very young men? We are free to make choices and do these things - and so now we do. It is not always a simple relationship because young guys also know about palimony etc. and ways of squeezing the law for financial gain. They may enter into these age-match relationships with other objectives than just the desire for a Mrs. Robinson-type sexual partner. As with second-hand cars, it is buyer beware and so should both pariticipants be about the depth and expectation of the age disparate liaison. LOL



Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hamran
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 29
Posted on Mon, Aug 06, 2007 23:07

hi.you very nice vomen.Now is you my dreams


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
hpc1101
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 1
Posted on Mon, Aug 06, 2007 07:30

you are a fitty, bbow sounds awesome. Shame you dont live near me i imagine we'd have a lot of fun together.


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
badarufatai_hot
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 2
Posted on Mon, Aug 06, 2007 06:43

Re: LadyTY2Uall write: Very nicely said doll, I have always been more attracted to younger men and before gaining weight had no problem attracting them ;) Now that I am a BBW as well as an Older Woman I find the prospects very slim. Perhaps it is my lack of confidence or perhaps it is because most younger men can't handle the public opinion of being with a BBOW......;)

i will love to know u better but i am from least london essex


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
badarufatai_hot
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 2
Posted on Mon, Aug 06, 2007 06:42

hi sweety its not all younger men are what u just said some are not but there not fortunate lke me i have been looking for a nice older woman in the UK but i fount it difficult but i just got this site seriouce and i think if i can find one it will be nice and i will prove u wrong sweety. xxxxxxxxx

Available only
to logged in members

Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
LadyTY2Uall
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 1
Posted on Fri, Jun 15, 2007 10:48

Very nicely said doll, I have always been more attracted to younger men and before gaining weight had no problem attracting them ;) Now that I am a BBW as well as an Older Woman I find the prospects very slim. Perhaps it is my lack of confidence or perhaps it is because most younger men can't handle the public opinion of being with a BBOW......;)

Available only
to logged in members

Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
Geoff1982
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 33
Posted on Wed, Aug 30, 2006 19:17

i agree with daist alot its fear of rejection to why women dont want to give me a chance ive been told that 5times now


Reply / add comments   Quote   Report abuse    0 up Bookmark and Share
Available only
to logged in members

total posts: 1
Posted on Thu, Aug 17, 2006 21:11

Hi Josh, Tried to find my way to your, because I was just so interested in the depth at which you analyzed this issue. So much of it comes down to simple fear....fear of rejection, fear of abandonment... fear of judgment...the same issues we are all trying to avoid by even being involved in the tech world to even discuss the issues. But, just wanted to say how interesting it was for you to have attempted some sort of understanding of the cultural phenom we are all trying to find our way through. Best of luck in your search for connection.


0 up Bookmark and Share
Follow - Email me when people comment