So, you have ventured into mature waters, relationship wise. You found have older man, couldn’t resist his charm and fell for him head over heels before your even knew it. We have all heard that story before. Now that you have taken the plunge, it is important to understand that relationships involving younger women and older men are not your run-of-the-mill affairs. They come with a distinct set of advantages and pitfalls, and more often than not the latter far outweighs the former, sounding death knell for the relationship. If you really want to make your relationship work, here are a few things to keep in mind.
Be Clear about Your Objectives
There can be several reasons for getting involved with an older man. Of these, the most publicized – and for the wrong reasons – is the man’s wealth and the sense of financial security that comes with it. If that is the sole reason why you are with an older man, know that it won’t last too long. But if you are genuinely attracted to each other, if his wisdom, experience or just who he is as a person is what has drawn you to him, there is hope for a strong bond to flourish between you two. As with any other relationship, be sure that you are in it for the right reasons.
Don’t be Bogged Down by Prejudice
A lot of younger women older men relationships fall prey to the judgmental outlook and prejudice from society at large. You two may often be mistaken for father-daughter instead of a couple, your peers may look at him as a father figure and even mock your relationship, and you may feel out-of-place in his social circles where most of the people are way older than you. Don’t shy away from talking about these things as a couple and evolve a defense mechanism to deal with such uncomfortable situations and snide remarks, so that the person at the receiving end of the criticism or sarcasm has no reason to feel insecure.
Become a Part of Each Others’ Lives
If you are forever hanging out with your peers and he is busy with his business associates or work colleagues, and you meet only in the confines of your bedroom, it is not a sign of a healthy, holistic relationship. The sexual charm will soon wane off and you will be left wanting for things to do together. It is, therefore, a good idea to be involved in each other’s lives. Make his a part of activities you enjoy or are passionate about, and be open to his invitations to make you a part of his life. You could take him shopping or bowling or clubbing, and in turn accompany him for a fishing trip, golfing or even a formal office/business dinner. This will help evolve a strong relationship between you two, and let your partner know that you are not in any way embarrassed of the relationship.
Be prepared to invest in a relationship with a significant age gap a little more than you normally would. Take the world head on with a belief that people will come around to accepting your relationship as long as you two are together for the right reasons.