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The SECRET to Healthy Eating...shhhhh! Posted on Jan 11, 2012 at 12:28 PM
THERE IS NO SECRET! I eat all my food plain and unprocessed, which means I get enough protein, fat, and carbs for my body. So, there is NO magical combination when it comes to healthy eating! You just need to fuel your body for your needs with the right food, and eliminate the wrong food...consistently. I hardly ever eat any junk food (occasionally weekends, birthdays and vacations), and the 90% elimination of all junk food is what has given me the best results and keeps me muscular and lean. Again: eating is key....but the secret is that there IS NO SECRET. If you are willing to eat right all the time and give up eating your favorite snacks...everyday, you WILL do well. I always eat 6-to-2 eggwhites-to-eggs ratio and plain oatmeal for breakfast, and I usually have different combinations of vegetables, fish, oatmeal, 93% lean beef, and nuts throughout the day. I eat 5-6 meals per day... and that's it! No recipes and nothing fancy. I know my body, so I don't count or measure my food. I know the difference between what I need and what I want. I need protein, fats, and carbs everyday. I want pizza, but I don't eat that. Some people measure their food, and some don't. Do whatever works for you. There is no magical combination that will grant you a fit body overnight. Don't worry if you should choose the green beans or the broccoli, the oatmeal, or the brown rice. There is no right or wrong; you just need to fuel your body properly for your goals and stop eating so much crap. If you've been eating like crap all year, and suddenly you want to get lean in a record amount of time... good luck. I couldn't imagine all the crazy work it work it would take to do that. Not to mention it is probably dangerous and unhealthy. Plus, you'll never be where you would be if you were doing it right all along, instead of treating the body like an on/off switch. That is why I just keep steady all year and I never need to take drastic measures to try and get back in shape... I just stay consistent. So if you are just starting out, be very patient and don't give up. Results and progress take time and there is no quick fix. Consistency is key. Fill in the blank for this sentence.... " I have been working out and eating right consistently for 'blank' years. When the number you put in that blank keeps increasing, you'll keep getting better. And once you start, be sure to never find yourself saying,..."I'm getting back into it again".
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For MEN Only: Get BACK to Basics Posted on Jan 11, 2012 at 08:07 AM
"There is no place worth going that requires a shortcut.” --Anonymous After legs, back is the most neglected male body part. Most guys assume that building the back is not the worth the time or effort. Most men seem to think, “Chicks appreciate nice arms, chest, and abs, so why even bother working out my back?” After all, women don’t actually focus on your back, right? Mistake! A thick, powerful back is essential for creating that much-coveted “v” tapered physique, making your shoulders appear wider and your waist smaller, and most of us know that women like men with broad shoulders and a small waist. Nothing beats the deadlift when it comes to widening and thickening the back, but I want to focus on another exercise that most of you guys are likely avoiding: the pull-up. Next to deadlift, pullups are the most effective, yet, sadly, most neglected back exercise. How many guys do you see in your gym performing old-school pull-ups versus those fancy lat machine pulldowns? In gyms across America, chances are you will wait in line to use the fancy lat machine, while the pull-up bar remains devoid of all users. Why? Simple: machines are easy, and (like deads and squats) pullups are damn hard and painful. But BACK EXERCISE MACHINES ARE SHORTCUTS. Another reason guys avoid pull-ups is that they’re embarrassed. Most of us guys, myself included, couldn't even do a measly rep when first starting out. That’s pretty humbling! On the lat machine, however, I could churn churn out 10-12 reps using 100 + lbs. of weight. I was not getting the results I wanted using the lat machine, so one day I finally accepted the fact that in order to build my back, I was going to have to work hard for it, and for me that meant a lot of deadlifts and pullups. Guys: if you want a nice back, AVOID the lat pulldown machine and start using the pullup bar. Your strength will increase if you stick with pullups. it won't happen overnight, but your persistence will pay off. You'll be the only guy in your gym using the pullup bar. Which means you'll be one of the strongest. If you’re like I was and can’t perform a pullup, start with a reverse grip(i.e. palms facing you)…you’ll work your arms more, but you will increase your back strength. Each week, as your strength increases, try to perform 1 set with a palms-facing-away grip, which will target your back more and help build that "v-width" physique that makes women go ga-ga. Start doing pullups now, and by summer, you'll notice muscles bulging across the upper portion of your back, and you'll also notice some heavy duty eye contact from those tall, thin, big busted bikini-clad MILFs at the beach. ;) I'm out.
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For MEN Only: How to Get Abs Posted on Jan 11, 2012 at 07:55 AM
Well it's the time of year again. Guys running to the gym in droves, resolute in "losing weight." I get asked lots of questions, but the most popular one seems to be, "How do I get abs?" Here's my answer: You don't need any potions, powders, magical miracle pills, or crazy contraptions that give you abs in 5 seconds. There are no magical methods that exist. So if you guys are looking for magic, keep on looking--and good luck to you. Workout consistently and eat right. Don't eat any junk food. THAT is how you will get abs--and it takes time and dedication. You get visible abs by having low bodyfat. You can do 5000 crunches a day and you'll never in your life see your abs unless you lower your bodyfat. That means you CANNOT eat all of the delicious treats that you love if you want to have abs, unless you consider chicken, fish, oatmeal, etc. to be delicious treats. Eating pizza, ice cream, cookies, cakes, beer, etc...will NOT lower your bodyfat; in fact, the aforementioned foods will raise bodyfat... so no abs for you. It comes down to this: Are you willing to stop eating all of your delicious foods for defined abs? You can have abs IF you are willing to work for them. Are you? That is what will determine your success. Skipping junk food for one day won't make a difference. If you buy an instant ab contraption on TV, you aren't going to get abs. You have to commit yourself to working out regularly and eating right. And yes,... it's hard, and it takes time...longer than 5 seconds.
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For MEN ONLY: A Few Observations about Women Posted on Jan 10, 2012 at 07:03 AM
Listed below are a few quotes that I think will help guys. I still see a lot of desparate men out there who try too hard to "win over" a woman's affection. I didn't write these quotes. My friend Jeff gets the credit. Read 'em and learn: "Most girls don't go to clubs to meet guys. They go there to be entertained by them.If you're going to go to clubs to run game, you should treat it as entertainment as well. Allow yourself to be larger than life, and don't even sweat the bitchy-type women. After all, if a girl acts that way to a total stranger, how valid can her behavior be? The bitchy ones sometimes become sweet if you tease em a bit and then engage them in conversation about THEMSELVES. And, if you can get them to HATE you early on, you will have an easier time 'turning the tide,' so to speak. It sounds counterintuitive, but that's a chick in a club for ya." "If a girl rejects you, you should pretend not to care- even if you do. Some girls may even TRY to get a reaction out of you- don't give them the satisfaction. Just ignore them and move onto other girls. This is the ONLY POSSIBLE WAY you can maintain high value and (possibly, if unlikely) build interest in the face of rejection. Even if she thinks it's an act, it still works by demonstrating that you have control over your emotions and won't let one silly girl deter you from approaching other women." "It is AMAZING how effective silence is when a girl calls/texts you and cancels a date. Not responding to a cancellation is one of those things that guys with a ton of options do instinctively- they don't give closure when a girl flakes; they just move on to the next. Even replying with "ok" has a negative effect on a girl's interest level. No response should ALWAYS be your default. It's lamentable that basic human courtesy works against you in such cases, but that's just how it is." "Girls enter into rebound situations with full expectation of dumping the guy once they know that he's willing to commit. Don't let her do this to you- remain a challenge and confound her expectations. Go hot and cold on her. Have days when you don't return her calls/texts, become suddenly unavailable, etc. She may try to push for you to become exclusive; do not accept this for a few months- until you can be sure that you are more than an ego boost for her." "Don't make the assumption that the best way to keep her thinking about you is by contacting her/ sending her texts. Did you ever text a girl and get absolutely no response? Did that make you think about her more or less? It works the same way for girls- strategically ignoring them for a few days gets them wondering whether or not you've lost interest in them, and that subsequently raises their own interest. 'Striking when the iron is hot' means acting when she's HIGHLY interested in you. Did her actions indicate that she couldn't wait to see you again- even the very next day? Did she text you on her own accord to 'fish' for you to ask her out again? Did she invite you to do something with her before she left? If so, then contacting her will do no harm. However, it's more likely that after a first date, she enjoyed being with you and found you attractive, but isn't at the point where she desires you wildly. Showing too much eagerness now will prevent her from reaching that point, as she assures herself that you're ALREADY highly interested in her and thus not a challenge. The odds of seeing her again are better if she assumes that you forgot about her in the meantime. Girls are hyper sensitive to ANY display of neediness in a new suitor- even a harmless text will come off as supplication." "Showing too much interest sets the frame that you are 'chasing' her. This is going to turn her off. Trying to 'maintain contact' is going to work against you, too. You should instead wait until you get CLEAR signs of investment on her part before you tell her you'd like to see her again. You want to keep her guessing- that is what builds interest." "If approaching a woman whom you've never met before is making you feel bad about yourself, you shouldn't do it. You absolutely HAVE to view it as a game, and not as something that reflects on you in any way. Remember- none of these girls knows you on any level, and therefore can't judge you in any way. Most of the rejections come from the fact that 'cold approaching' isn't normal. In fact, cold approaching is HARD. Most of the time, interactions go nowhere and there's nothing you can do about it. Because of this, it is absolutely essential that you do TONS of cold approaches and be willing to accept rejections. It's not a good model for everyone, and if you feel like the rejections are getting to you, abandon it and work on building a social circle instead. Most guys that have success at cold approach pickup are NOT chatting up girls in the pharmacy, Walmart, etc. The best places to do cold approaches are on your own 'turf'- a venue where you have some social proof. That's why it is best to pick ONE venue and try to make friends with the staff, regulars, etc. before worrying about cold approaches-- it truly makes things THAT much easier. How is your social life besides pickup? Do you have a number of friends that like to go out and do things? This is very important."
I Hate It When... Posted on Dec 29, 2011 at 05:19 PM
I hate it when... 1. People refer to 80-plus year olds as "young" men and women. 2. Women hyphenate their last names. 3. Men walk around bare-shirted outside of the gym/beach 4. Smokers congregate, even in designated smoking areas 5. People pretend to understand the ending of "Inception." 6. People lock their dogs in the car and roll up the windows, even when it's cool enough outside. 7. People believe that the deceased are "smiling down" on their loved ones. 8. College and pro football coaches shake hands at the end of games. 9. People pop gum 10. I use the fitting rooms to try on new clothes at the mall 11. My youtube videos start buffering 12. Women try to skip the line at Starbucks and ask the (male) stranger nearest the cashier to order their coffee. 13. I see women driving Hummers and Jeeps and motorcycles 14. Waiters are rude to me 15. Jennifer Lopez tries to endorse low-budget cars 16. Progressive commercials air 17. People laugh at South Park episodes 18. People tell me that they are staunch Republicans or Democrats 19. A woman on an online dating site features 25 photos, all of them with friends. 20. I go to the grocery store and the cashier is a slow talker type. 21. I have to ask for a key to use a public restroom. 22. People are speaking Spanish around me. 23. People who aren't crippled park in handicapped spots 24. People park in the non-parking zone and flash their hazards. 25. People drive below the speed limit 26. Women are talking on theor cell phone in the grocery store. 27. Motorists fail to use their blinkers. 28. I turn on the TV and there's an episode of Cops 29. I think of Casey Anthony signing a book deal 30. I think of people buying Casey Anthony's book 31. People deny that most of today's NFL athletes use steroids 32. Ever I see Lance Armstrong on TV. 33. People seek their parents' approval. 34. Kids are being groomed to become film and rock stars 35. Professional athletes give interviews--so fake!
If You Want to Lose Weight in 2012... Posted on Dec 29, 2011 at 12:55 PM probably won't! The reason: weight loss resolutions usually don't work! Why? Because losing weight has to become a WAY OF LIFE...not a one-time "numbers goal." It's like an alcoholic who vows to stop drinking...he's folling himself if vows to drink less. DRINKING LESS IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH! He knows that alcoholism is a potentially fatal disease and that he must CHANGE HIS LIFE in order to "cure" his alcoholism. So he vows to never drink again! There's no in-between or compromise. A drunk must CHANGE HIS LIFE and remain completely sober. Because he knows one beer leads to death. Just because you lose 50 lbs. doesn't give you the right to stop working out and eat cakes and pizza! Just like the alcoholic, you know that once you go back to your old ways, the weight will come back too! If you're gonna make a resolution, the best resolution is, "I want to make exercise and healthy eating a way of life, starting in 2012, and I will do it." There's just no other way to lose weight. Why do you think fat people like Oprah Winfrey and Kirstie Alley have "struggled" with their weight? It's because they're thinking of a number instead of a lifestyle! Sure, you can exercise or starve yourself silly and lose the weight, but once you've reached that "magic" number, you're gonna feel empty, because there's nothing left to accomplish--and the weight's gonna come back. Why? Because you don't value fitness and diet. You value numbers. The weight-loss number is just...A NUMBER! TRUE weight loss involves a LIFESTYLE SHIFT--grit, determination, discipline. NO EXCUSES. It requires a lifetime's devotion to healthy eating and regular exercise. So, if you're focused on a weight loss number, instead of a lifestyle change, don't even bother. You'll just fail! You may win the battle, but you'll lose the war.
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For MEN ONLY: Playerette Warning Signs Posted on Dec 29, 2011 at 12:26 PM
I just read an article about women who are playerettes and some of the warning signs: 1. When the conversation is going too smoothly. 2. When she is always setting the schedule for dates. (She always wants to be in the driver's seat). 3. When she doesn't show signs of affection in public with you. 4. If she is not returning your phone calls within a reasonable amount of time. 5. If she is attractive. (A must) 6. She always seems to direct the conversation and tries to control the conversation. 7. Is vague about how she spends her free time and avoids talking about it. 8. Just when you think she is more trouble than she is worth, suddenly she does something that seems to make it worth it (like a favor), to lure you back in her web.
For MEN Only: Thoughts on the Pre-Nup Posted on Dec 22, 2011 at 08:41 AM
I read a brief article this morning about Kobe Bryant's recent marraige dissolution. His soon-to-be ex will reportedly "settle" for 75 million dollars--supposedly half of Kobe's worth. For the record, Kobe didn't sign a pre-nup (!). And while I think that Kobe is not the brightest star in the universe, I just find it hard to believe that he didn't at least THINK about asking his wife to sign a pre-nup. At the very least, he MUST have wanted her to sign something--but I'll bet that she shrewdly talked him out of it: Mrs. Bryant(in tears): "Kobe, We aren't even married yet and you are talking about divorce!" Kobe: ... Her (still in tears): "I want YOU! Not your money!" Kobe: "Duh...der...ahhh...then signing the contract should be easy!" Her: "Blah blah blah cry cry cry" Kobe: "Duh...der...ahhh." Her: "How can you cheapen what we have by having a pre-nup! Shame shame guilt guilt on you Kobe!" I will dam sure bet that he'll make his next wife sign a pre-nup! LOL Anyway, Kobe's dumb mistake exemplifies my point about men and pre-nups. I commend any man for having the guts to talk, up front, about money and assets BEFORE proposing marraige. And hopefully the man is wise enough to get it all in writing and have a defense attorney waiting in the wings should the marraige should go sour (and the statistics tell us that it will likely go sour!) I think EVERY hardworking man with money and assets should ask a woman the tough questions: "How much money would you want if I divorced you? What about my assets? My house? My investments? My business? Will you sign a pre-nup" Guys, don't be afraid to TALK about this stuff openly before you enter any kind of long-term relationship or marraige. And you should expect most women to try to steer clear of such coversations--because for most women, marraige means win-win. To a woman, marraige represents a lifetime of financial and social security, but, in case of a divorce, a woman will still likely get the largest finanacial windfall of her life, and continue making money from her own career! So, if I were a woman, the LAST thing I'd want my husband-to-be talking about is the sensible division and protection of my money and assets. My opinion is, most women WILL (and should!) object--fervently--to signing any kind of pre-nup or cohab agreement, simply because it's disadvantageous for them! Kudos today to women who are actually willing to sign a pre-nup. I imagine that a lot of women would rather play the romanticism-bullcrap card and decry what an insensitive, unromantic jerk a guy is for assuming that money is more important than love. Guys--if you've worked hard and have money, your destiny is strong, for you can have just about any woman you want--so do NOT give in. Demand a pre-nup! Your entire life's work is at stake here!
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Women Like This Are Why I Refuse To Pay for Dinners! Posted on Dec 12, 2011 at 08:49 AM
A friend just sent me a link to ABC News chronicling a 25-year-old woman in Manhattan who proudly states that she accepts men's dinner dates, even if she's not attracted to them. She was provided over $1200.00 in free meals over a 1-month persiod. So this is just a little reminder to all the guys out there why paying for dinner (especially on a first date!) is a bad idea. CAUTION: there are more women than you think who WILL date you for a free meal! An ideal first date: Short and sweet and cheap and local NO food--drink(s) only. 1 hour max. 2 drinks, max. If a woman truly likes you, she won't care about fancy dinners (right ladies?) When you invite her out, be clear: "How about joining me for a DRINK this Wed. at the Rusty Pelican at 8?" If the waiter brings food menus and starts talking about today's specials, don't be afraid to say (right in front of your date): "We're just gonna be having a drink or two tonight. Thanks." Remember guys: As the man, YOU are expected to risk rejection and approach her, get her number, and invite her on a date. As the initiator, THE MAN chooses the date activity. She just has to show up. She either chooses to comply to your agenda--or she doesn't. it's best to never be dependent on just one woman for dates; create options so that you'll never allow her to dictate. YOU lead, and if she wants to spend time with YOU, she will follow.
MEN Only: How I Handled Being Stood Up Last Night Posted on Dec 12, 2011 at 07:59 AM
I met a woman via online and we exchanged a few brief texts and a Friday phone chat. She was vivacious and friendly and flirty over the phone, so I invited her to meet up for a drink last night at 7. She never showed. No phone call. No text. Happens to the best of us. So how did I handle it? Well, first off, I didn't text or call her as I waited at the bar. I just decided to wait 15 minutes--and not one minute more. Left at 7:15. Next thing: I went to the gym and worked out. And it was a good workout, too. What better way to work off the frustration and dissapointment of being flaked, right? Last thing (and this is the best part!): I texted her a message this morning: HPD: "I am SO SORRY that I forgot about our date last night. Time got away from me and I just forgot! Hope you'll accept my apology." Her response, 5 minutes later: FLAKEGIRL: " No problem. I left a bit early, hope your weekend went well." Now, guys, I don't advocate lieing, but, in my opinion, a girl who disrespects my time has to be checked--and I'm not giving her the mental satisfaction of thinking that she wasted my time. And, this girl's ambiguous response tells me a LOT about her character. Apparently, she thinks it's OK to stand up a person and wish wim a good weekend--all in the same sentence. She doesn't take dating seriously. Ahhh yes...another flaking chapter in the crazy world of dating.
"Sir, Would You Like Some Flakes with Those Winks?" Posted on Dec 07, 2011 at 07:51 AM
"Censorship reflects society's lack of confidence in itself. It is a hallmark of an authoritarian regime." Potter Stewart
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"The Rules"...according to Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider Posted on Dec 02, 2011 at 06:13 AM
Following is a set of 30 "rules" that was featured in a 1995 "self-help" book, co-authored by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. 1.Be a “Creature” Unlike Any Other 2.Don't Talk to a Man First (and Don't Ask Him to Dance) 3.Don't Stare at Men or Talk Too Much 4.Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date 5.Don't Call Him & Rarely Return His Calls 6.Always End Phone Calls and dates First 7.Don't Accept a Saturday Night Date after Wednesday. 8.Fill Up Your Time before the Date 9.How to Act on Dates 1,2, and 3 10.How to Act on Dates 4 through Commitment Time 11.ALWAYS end the date first 12.Stop Dating Him if He Doesn't Buy You a Romantic Gift for Your Birthday or Valentine's Day 13.Don’t See Him More than Once or Twice a Week 14.No More than Casual Kissing on the First Date 15.Don't Rush into Sex, Wait at Least Three Dates 16.Don't Tell Him What to Do 17.Let Him Take the Lead 18.Don't Expect a Man to Change or Try to Change Him 19.Don’t Open Up Too Fast 20.Be Honest but Mysterious 21.Accentuate the Positive & Other Rules for Personal Ads 22.Don’t Live with a Man (or Leave Your Things in His Apartment) 23.Don't Date a Married Man 24.Slowly Involve Him in Your Family & Other Rules for Women with Children 25.Practice, Practice, Practice! (or, Getting Good at The Rules) 26.Even if You're Engaged or Married, You Still Need The Rules 27.Do The Rules, Even when Your Friends & Parents Think It's Nuts 28.Be Smart and Other Rules for Dating in High School 29.Take Care of Yourself and Other Rules for Dating in College 30.NEXT! & Other Rules for Dealing with Rejection 31.Don't Discuss The Rules with Your Therapist. 32.Don't Break The Rules! 33.Do The Rules and You’ll Live Happily Ever After! 34.Love Only Those Who Love You 35.Be Easy to Live With LOL. The interesting part to me about "The Rules" is that generally women will never actively use them. They don't need it, as it contradicts what they're instinctually attracted to. They'll get what they want so long as they keep up their looks, for the most part. The day women think and behave like men is the day "The Rules" might actually mean something.
Is Breast Cancer Overhyped? Posted on Dec 01, 2011 at 11:53 AM
I used to think, based on the ubiquitous marketing campaigns concerning breast cancer awareness, that breast cancer is the number one health threat to women in America today. I'm surprised to learn that it's not even in the Top 5. According to the esteemed Mayo Clinic, the top 5 threats to American women are as follows: •Heart disease •Stroke •Lung cancer •Chronic respiratory disease •Diabetes Yet, in the past 5 years or so, breast cancer awareness has skyrocketed, permeating just about every facet of American society: bumper stickers, t-shirts, even NFL uniforms and professional playing fields proudly and conspicuously bare the pink ribbon icon for all audiences (i.e. consumers) to see. Do I think breast cancer awareness is a worthy cause? Absolutely! But why aren't the NFL and other corporations giving at least equal focus to greater health risks, like heart disease and stroke? I think it's because today's retailers are simply placating to the new post-modern leading consumer: the middle-aged American female. A company can mass produce a breast cancer awareness bumper sticker because it'll sell. Corporations looking to maximize profits via good publicity (i.e. The NFL) can rely on breast cancer awareness to appeal to the women consumers. it's a no brainer. Hell, even McDonald's, a corporation which, in my opinion, has likely infested more American women's bodies with diabetes and heart disease, can simply affix the cute pink ribbon icon to its food packaging, and come out looking philanthropic. LOL! McDonald's pimping disease awareness is kind of like Jack the Ripper hosting a documentary on the troubled psyche of serial killers! Not so for heart disease and stroke. Even though those afflictions are far riskier to women's health, they're a helluva lot less sexier, so companies stay away from them because they know they won't sell as many t-shirts and bumper stickers and Quarter Pounders. Following is an interesting article by Chicago Tribune writer Julie Deardorff: Women have an irrational fear of breast cancer. At least that’s according to a study that compares a woman’s top five fears with the top five health threats, which appears in the September issue of Prevention Magazine. But while women spend more time worrying about breast cancer than any other disease, it’s not even in the top five. In fact, the third most common threat, lung cancer, kills more women than breast, ovarian and uterine cancers combined. It gets little sympathy probably because it’s considered a "smoker’s disease" but 15 percent of these women never smoked. Here’s what women fear according to Prevention: •Breast cancer •Heart disease •HIV/AIDS •Alzheimer’s •Ovarian cancer
For MEN ONLY: How to Totally Eliminate Rejection Posted on Nov 21, 2011 at 08:55 AM
Rejection is the root of tons of guy problems. Striking up conversations, asking the girl out, going in for the kiss...pretty much everything from start to finish is all centered around the nagging possibility of rejection. There is one sure way to avoid rejection. It's a secret that a lot of guys I know are keeping all to themselves: It's called Not Even Trying. I mean, if you don't try, how can she reject you, right? Stay at home, play X-Box, and never leave your house. Order pizza in every night so that you don't have to leave your home and possibly meet a girl who might reject you. Of course, that's if you WANT to be a loser. If not, then it's time to realize that the biggest obstacle out there is NOT is YOUR FEAR of rejection. As the old saying goes, "Courage is being afraid and doing it anyway." I have found that dealing with women is like playing the stock market. Diversify, diversify, diversify. Some people will invest in only one company, and if something bad happens, everything goes to hell. Other people will spread their portfolios over a wide range of stocks, funds, bonds, etc. and they can handle it if one or two doesn't go so great. But one thing is absolutely certain -- you won't make a dime in the stock market if you don't invest in it. Anything worth anything requires some measure of risk. After Thomas Edison had hit a long period of stumbling blocks in his work, he was asked by someone if he had any results to show for all his work. Edison replied, "Results! Why, man, I have gotten a lot of results. I know several thousand things that won't work." That should be the male attitude toward rejection.
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For MEN ONLY: 30 Key Rules about Women Posted on Nov 21, 2011 at 08:25 AM
RULE 1: Women communicate in two modes: the way things are and the way they WISH things were. Whenever in doubt, assume it's the latter choice. RULE 2: Women desire attention the same way that guys desire sex. Give attention sparingly. This is your currency. RULE 3: Do not become so invested in any one girl that you cannot simply walk away. RULE 4: Confidence, prestige, and money attract women even more than good looks. This is why you see fat, ugly, or dumpy guys with hot chicks. RULE 5: Desperation repels women. You will attract more women when you don't care if you're attracting women. RULE 6: After getting a girl's phone number, wait at least two days to call her to avoid appearing desperate. RULE 7: Use the phone only to set up dates--not to talk about weather, current events, how her day went, etc. Save that conversation for the date. RULE 8: If you call a girl and get an answering machine, don't leave a message. Just try again another time. Women, as a general rule, do not return phone calls. RULE 9: First dates should be short and sweet. NO "dinner and a movie". Coffee and conversation first--and if you can make it fun, you know that there's chemistry. RULE 10: Do not give gifts early in the relationship. Doing so makes it appear as though you are attempting to purchase her affection. RULE 11: Girls will test guys to see how much they can skate by with. Do not be tempted to give in. Speak your opinions, stand by your convictions, and don't put up with excessive amounts of bulls**t. RULE 12: A woman can only take advantage of you as much as you let her. RULE 13: There is no such thing as a "soulmate" or "the one". It doesn't exist. There are millions of women out there, though, and many of them have the traits you are looking for. RULE 14: Don't put any woman up on a pedestal. You risk not being able to reach her. Women are people too... or so I'm told! RULE 15: If a girl disrespects you or your time, particularly early in the relationship, don't hesitate to get rid of her. NEXT! RULE 16: No relationship is a committed one until both people agree that it is. Until then, anything is fair game for both parties involved. RULE 17: Never be the one that says, "I love you" first. RULE 18: The challenge is part of the fun. Don't short-change the girl. Let her pursue you. The harder something is to obtain, the more valuable it is perceived to be. RULE 19: If a woman cheats on you, she is gone. No exceptions. RULE 20: Never date a woman who has more problems than you do. RULE 21: Do not date women from work. Work is stressful enough. RULE 22: Dating is a "numbers game". Accept the fact that you're going to get rejected more times than not. Suck it up and get back out there! RULE 23: Getting advice about women from a woman is like asking Osama bin Laden to tell you the locations of all his terrorist camps. RULE 24: Where women are concerned, pay more attention to what they do than what they say. RULE 25: Realize that women are tricky, lying, manipulative, devious, scheming, sneaky, cunning, calculating, shrewd, and Machiavellian creatures. Love them anyway. RULE 26: "Bros before hos." Any girl that can be stolen from your best friend isn't worth stealing from your best friend. RULE 27: Stay away from your ex. Chances are that you won't be able to get back with her (the pool has been peed in). Chances are also good that if you DO succeed in getting back with your ex, you'll wish that you hadn't. RULE 28: Don't reveal too much about yourself too soon. Remain a mystery. RULE 29: Women are not the only thing in life. Have other things in your life that excite you. RULE 30: If you aren't sure about when to bend or break a rule, go with your instinct. If it's wrong, that's a good lesson for next time... and there's always a next time.
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Dang I'm Good! You Won't Believe This (True) Story!!! Posted on Nov 17, 2011 at 09:25 AM
A few months ago I was in a grocery store and noticed this very striking blonde MILF wearing an elegant & professional outfit; slim fit body; apparently lots of plastic surgery (just how I like them!). Opened a conversation (“What’s for dinner?”). She kind of brushed me off. No biggie. About 2 weeks later, I notice her again…this time as I’m walking into the same grocery store. I notice her get out of a gold Mercedes, wearing a semi-mini miniskirt and high heels, revealing a set of toned muscular tan legs. I approach her in the wine aisle: “Hey you! Don’t I know you from somewhere?” She was a little more receptive this time, and we talked for a minute; then she said, “Have a nice night,” and walked away. I finished my shopping and approached her again. “I gotta get going, but I just wouldn’t feel right if I left this store without introducing myself. I’m HotProfDude.” She asks about me, where I live, what I do, etc. This time she offers her business card (which features a very hot photo of her!). Mission accomplished. One week later: I call and invite her out for coffee; says she’s busy but will call right back. She never does call back. Two weeks later: I call again, and she apologizes for not calling back and offers to meet up for a drink tomorrow evening at 6. So, the next night comes, and I’m waiting in front of the restaurant for my lovely MILF, when a STUNNINGLY GORGEOUS blonde Cougar wearing a tight-fitting black outfit walks up. I smile and tell her how nice it is to see her and escort her to a back table overlooking the water (yeah, I’m good!). So we’re sitting there talking, smiling, flirting, etc. Then she says, “You’re very handsome, and you’re a lot younger than your profile says!” HA! This woman was blonde and SMOKING HOT, but she was not the blonde MILF that I had met at the grocery store!!! She was there to meet someone else on a blind date!!!! She “met” a guy on an online dating site, and the guy didn’t post his photos (lucky for me), and she thought I was that guy! HOW FREAKING CRAZY IS THAT!!! So anyway, I urge her to take a peek into the restaurant to see if “Bernard” might be waiting. Sure enough, she tells me that there’s a 60-something guy sitting at the bar, alone. I ask her if he’s good looking, and she says, “Well, you can’t judge a book by its cover.” We cash out and I tell her that things happen for a reason, and she agrees (women love thinking that things happen by fate). She offers me her number and tells me (twice!) to call her. About 10 minutes later, the MILF that I met at the grocery store shows up, and I embark on my SECOND date for the evening! So how do you like that? The Prof hooks TWO sexy older women in one night. Dang I’m good!
For MEN ONLY: How Rejection Can Help You Get The Girl Posted on Nov 15, 2011 at 08:46 AM
Have you guys ever noticed that men with average looks and incomes are still scoring with hot women? I hear a lot of people say that these type men are "getting lucky." I call it "trying." These average-looking, average-income-earning men seem to do stupid things--like buy drinks for girls, ask girls if they like them, and even beg for kisses. It is seriously uncomfortable viewing for a guy like me, but the crazy thing is: it WORKS for these guys a lot of the time! The reason? Even the most average of them is not afraid to put himself out there and risk rejection...sometimes even MULTIPLE rejections. This is really the ONLY trait you MUST have if you want to succeed with women--you must act on your desires! The goal for too many guys is to avoid rejection, rather than to get the girl!! The TRUTH is, rejections are NOT permanent, and sometimes can work in your favor. When you go direct, most gorgeous women will reject you several times just to test your confidence. If you stay calm, though, and continue to work on them, you can often win them over, because the way you handle rejection is something of a lie detector test of confidence. A good rule of thumb: if they don't leave, assume that they're they're attracted on some level, and therefore, rejection is meaningless. For instance, if a girl says, "Sorry, you're not my type," or dodges a kiss or whatever, just smile and say, "We'll see" or, "I'll win you over." Then, cut to a new thread and escalate once more. The kind of confidence it takes to shrug off blatant rejection is so uncommon among men in this day and age that this alone tends to inspire a bit of attraction in a woman. It makes sense, since rejection isn't all that big a deal when you have a ton of options. Most guys get so flustered and embarrassed by rejection that they can't recover and either leave the set or creep everyone out. THERE IS NO SHAME IN REJECTION! Sometimes, it's an unfortunate but necessary part of getting to "yes." This goes for handling flaky women as well. If a girl is turning you down or standing you up, don't get upset and try to "talk about it"; just disappear for awhile. Chances are, she'll get curious and contact you in a week's time. The void she feels from a loss of attention is relative, so if you've texted her every day and then suddenly disappear, it'll actually bother her MORE. All the more reason not to worry about when/ how often you call her; the trick is just not to be NEEDY. It's much healthier to view rejection as a kind of dance, rather than a moment of truth. Guys, if you make it a point to ALWAYS escalate to the point where her comfort levels are challenged, you will never end up in the dreaded "friendzone," which is really a state of only semi-permanent rejection. If you look among your friends as to who gets the most girls, you'll find it's simply the guy who tries the most. The guy that tries to play it cool and HIDES his desire will often finds himself in the dreaded perma-state of "let's just be friends."
MEN only: How 2 Hold Interest B-Tween First and Second Dates Posted on Nov 11, 2011 at 11:35 AM
Unfortunately, guys, part of building a connection with a woman lies in having her feel insecure about your feelings towards her --in the early stages, anyway. If you've had a string of (seemingly) great first dates, only to have the girl disappear afterwards, it is because you failed to leave room for doubt. You will have much better luck if you disappear for a bit immediately following the first date. One common problem with dating in general is that a man is automatically penalized for being a stranger. You can go out and have a great date with a girl, only to have all the attraction evaporate in a few days as you exchange text messages, trying to plan another date. The fact that you aren't someone that she sees regularly in her daily life means that it will be VERY difficult for her to feel any type of connection to you until you sleep with her. However, if you attempt to "forge" a connection by texting her continually, you will likely be punished for showing too much eagerness. It's a catch 22; this is why most traditional "dating" models don't lead to relationships. The best strategy is to mimic the communication strategies of high valued men (like me) and prey on her need for validation, for this is what it means to be a "challenge." Since the chemistry from your first date will be forgotten in days, the only way to get her interest level up is going to be to plant the seed that you aren't sure about her yet and have other prospects. This means to avoid giving her ANY closure following the first date. Don't make plans for a second date on the first one; don't text her to make sure she got in ok at the end of the night, and don't text her the next day to thank her for a nice time. Wait at least a couple of days, unless she contacts you first...and even then, show restraint. Her need for validation is going to be the key to getting her out with you again, so you need to make her feel that tension and uncertainty. When you DO ask her out again, keep it short and sweet- don't try too hard to be witty, and keep these dates SIMPLE. A man valued by many women will NOT bend over backwards trying to impress a girl he just met. Trying to impress her will send her running at this stage in the game. In the event that she can not make the day you suggest and doesn't offer an alternate day, say nothing. Either wait for her to text you again, or wait a week and contact her. If she cancels the second date abruptly, say nothing.
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MEN ONLY: How to Handle Being Dumped, Stood Up, or Rejected Posted on Nov 07, 2011 at 09:20 AM
I see a lot of guys digging themselves into deep holes every time they're dumped by their girlfriend or rejected by a girl that they like or with whom they’ve been involved. They want to know how to win them back, but don't have a clue how to do it. So I decided to share 3 examples in which the advice speaks for itself. Example #1 Earlier this year I met a 48-year-old sexy MILF who was in a 3 year long term relationship. She admitted she was attracted to me and started developing feelings for me. As often happens, things with her boyfriend were turning stale, and in the end she decided to break up with him and pursue a relationship with me. I felt flattered and rather cocky knowing I had just won this girl from her long term boyfriend. Things were going well. She didn’t want to talk to him, and every time he called she brushed him off. Her friends praised me, for she was proud to be with me and things were developing fast. However, her ex-boyfriend suddenly changed his attitude and instead of getting jealous of me or upset over being dumped, he gave us his best wishes, told her there were no hard feelings and he moved on. He started hanging round with his friends more and stopped calling her. After two weeks of not hearing from him she started calling him to check if he was ok and see what he was upto, only to find he was fine and enjoying his free time. Soon she started pushing him to remain friends and asking him to meet up with her. He postponed, cut his calls with her short and even stood her up a few times. Yet she persisted more. All this time I could see it was getting under her skin and that I was losing her affection. I could have been the perfect guy, but the ex-BF had the upper hand and there wasn’t a thing I could do about it. Every time he made an excuse not to meet her or ignored her call, she would get uptight and keep moaning about him. Sure enough she told me she wanted him back. She left me and started pursuing him all the time, but he continued backing off. She became obsessed and depressed, wouldn’t look at another guy and even burst out crying if he didn’t answer her calls. Next thing I hear, they’re back together--under HIS terms. He had her in the palm of his hand, even cheated on her! And she still stuck with him and remained loyal. Example #2 I had a few dates with a younger woman some months ago. We didn’t hit it off particularly well, but there was some physical attraction. After the 4th date she sent me a text message telling me she felt no chemistry and we should stop seeing each other. I replied by telling her “You’re right. No hard feelings”. The following day she contacted me again asking if we could give it another try. I told her no, that she was right, that there was no chemistry. then she called me to have a go at me and insult me, then called me a few hours later to apologize. I told her it was no problem, but I was on my way out, so I couldn’t stay and chat. She started sending me flirtatious text messages and emails, suggesting we get together for sex. I ignored them all. Soon I started receiving anonymous calls and text messages (which I suspected and later proved was her). Almost a year later, she still sends me occasional emails asking if I want to meet up. Example #3 A female friend of mine was in a relationship for 2 years with a typical “nice guy.” He’d buy her gifts, pay for her and do anything for her. She flirted with guys in front of him and he’d just sit there like a goof and say nothing. Then she finally accepted that he was “too nice” and decided to break up with him. At first he cried and took it really badly. He confessed his love for her and asked how he could change. Meanwhile she started having sex with another guy in secret. Every time this new guy was mean to her, she’d call her old "nice guy" boyfriend and he’d take her out and buy her gifts etc. Then she’d ignore him for weeks after! the next time she tried to contact her ex-"nice guy" BF, he finally acted like a man. He told her it was over, that he wasn’t interested in being friends any more, and that she should stop calling him. She did the exact opposite and started calling him more. He started ignoring her, and she started getting upset and moaning to her friends about how she regrets leaving him and she was stupid for letting him go. Months have passed and she still tries to contact him. She recently found out he has a new girlfriend and since then she has been crying herself to sleep at night, looking through old photos and listening to their favourite songs. She has said she would take him back within a second, and has beven egged him to give her another chance, but he has refused. CONCLUSION People place higher value what they can’t have or what they fear losing. When you are rejected or dumped, BACK OFF, and make their decision final. Don’t be taken for granted, don’t try to seduce them, and NEVER try to explain or repair mistakes. Don’t try to be friends, and don’t change who you are or put on any acts--just cut her off and get on with your life. If she tries to get in contact, be polite, but indifferent, and don’t give her your time. Your time now is for other things and other people! This is old advice and a golden rule, but hopefully the examples I’ve given have helped illustrate and emphasise this point.
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What's Keeping YOU Motivated? Posted on Oct 28, 2011 at 12:33 PM
“I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'"--Muhammed Ali It seems as though many people who are fit claim that they stay motivated because they LOVE working out and eating healthy. That baffles me! I DREAD working out most days, and eating healthy food is not so great compared to the deliciousness of all the fried cheesy foods, and, of course, all those pastries and desserts that seem to proliferate our society. Do people really love working out so much? Or are they confusing the process with the results? I don't like working out, but I do love being fit, so I suck it up and do my workout every day, even though I usually don't feel like it. I’ve discussed the topic with other people I know who exercise regularly, and it turns out, most can relate to my not being so crazy about the workout process, and they have also even admitted to not liking it. After all, it is a process of pushing your body to the limit, working hard, getting off your lazy ass and sweating, not to mention being consistent about it every week. "In life, you either suffer from the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. Regret is NOT happening on my watch."--Senip Egral I love the results of exercise, but the process is so hard. I would rather be sitting on the couch, watching TV, eating chips. So, if you don't like exercising either, I think that you’re completely normal. Yes, I admit it: working out can be a thorn in my side many days (just about every single day, actually). But then I face reality, which is truly the only way I know how to stay in great shape. There are no magical pills or tricks; if there were, I’d be the first in line. Suck it up and do it anyway, even though you probably don’t feel like doing it. This grueling process is the only way to have a truly fit body. "The last three or four reps is what makes the muscle grow. This area of pain divides the champion from someone else who is not a champion. That's what most people lack, having the guts to go on and just say they'll go through the pain no matter what happens."--Arnold Schwarzenegger Since the process itself sucks, I keep myself motivated by the fact that I will actually keep getting in better shape as long as I keep up with the torturous process. If I keep at it and never slack off, I will only get better, and that keeps me at it. If I start canceling workouts and skipping weeks, all my hard work will go to waste. I turned FORTY this year, but I’m still always looking to improve. Some people that I know have suggested that I am in great shape because of genetics--which is hilarious! I would love to see what I would look like now had I not been busting my ass for the last 6 years. My genetics are perfectly capable of looking like total crap if I stop exercising and eating right. If I can drag my lazy ass up for a workout almost every day, then anybody who desires to be fit can do it. There is NO magic; you just have to bust you’re ass. "The worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I hate that."--HotProfDude AKA "The Prof"
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