Just curious, because since I returned about hmmm a month ago nobody has actually asked me out. Gee - is it just me or do people just sort of exchange winks and hellos and move on? Have any of you women actually gone out to dinner or something with anybody from this site?
Also I've chatted with a few people, and then they seem to vanish into the night - I'm getting a total complex. I didn't think I was *that* boring. I know I'm older than a lot of the people here may be looking for, but surely there is at least one decent, nice guy who doesn't mind that I am 62.
I can even carry my own luggage and change a tire on a car, so there!
Just curious, because since I returned about hmmm a month ago nobody has actually asked me out. Gee - is it just me or do people just sort of exchange winks and hellos and move on? Have any of you women actually gone out to dinner or something with anybody from this site? Also I've chatted with a few people, and then they seem to vanish into the night - I'm getting a total complex. I didn't think I was *that* boring. I know I'm older than a lot of the people here may be looking for, but surely there is at least one decent, nice guy who doesn't mind that I am 62. I can even carry my own luggage and change a tire on a car, so there!
respect your choices what works for you, but in all casses age doesn't imply interesting or not, outer beauty important, but not all important (I was atracted to your look, but what you said told me so uch more about you. If you like music am a musician, if you like good humor can be a non stop laugh riot, gentleman, always as the case of being raised by a woman, bad boy, only if the signals you send are present.
Good success in your pursuit here, thanks for allowing me to express in response. Christopher
respect your choices what works for you, but in all casses age doesn't imply interesting or not, outer beauty important, but not all important (I was atracted to your look, but what you said told me so uch more about you. If you like music am a musician, if you like good humor can be a non stop laugh riot, gentleman, always as the case of being raised by a woman, bad boy, only if the signals you send are present.
Good success in your pursuit here, thanks for allowing me to express in response. Christopher
Yes, I have, and we communicated by phone for 7 months before we met, we are still friends. But it is long distance and we both have our things to do, so of course would be hard to keep up. But we are still very fond of each other.
Yes, I have, and we communicated by phone for 7 months before we met, we are still friends. But it is long distance and we both have our things to do, so of course would be hard to keep up. But we are still very fond of each other.
This is not the first dating site I've tried, and I've noticed the same thing before! Most seem to want to chat and flirt online but go no further! Many sites employ "bots" or fake profiles to lure men in to pay, only to find that there are no "real" people on the site but you! lol
I think you just have to get lucky and find a sincere, genuine person and actually let them know you're real but not "beating around the bush" or emailing/winking forever!
Just my 2 cents and hoping to find someone real for hopefully something long term! :)
This is not the first dating site I've tried, and I've noticed the same thing before! Most seem to want to chat and flirt online but go no further! Many sites employ "bots" or fake profiles to lure men in to pay, only to find that there are no "real" people on the site but you! lol I think you just have to get lucky and find a sincere, genuine person and actually let them know you're real but not "beating around the bush" or emailing/winking forever! Just my 2 cents and hoping to find someone real for hopefully something long term! :)
I agree with Jag 6000 about some of these profiles here being dubious.That is why I am down on e-mail at least for now.My last message was just a wink.Despite being a gold member.I want to know the person is for real.Not running a false profile.However,ther distance can be a bit of a difficulty.You must try to see if you can work that out.
I agree with Jag 6000 about some of these profiles here being dubious.That is why I am down on e-mail at least for now.My last message was just a wink.Despite being a gold member.I want to know the person is for real.Not running a false profile.However,ther distance can be a bit of a difficulty.You must try to see if you can work that out.
This is what I've found when doing online dating. It is easy for people, in this case men to hide behind emails, winks, texts and IMS. This way you take the personalization out of it. Plus it is easy just to fade away, to not be accountable. This has always been a huge frustration for me. I think the world we live in technologically allows for this. It is such a shame. People no longer really connect, I am deeply saddened by it. It is not you, believe me it has happened to me time and time again. I find I don't have high expectations anymore. How sad is that. I can understand someone losing interest due to various reasons. I certainly have. However I make it clear in my profile what I want. So to be played with, such as flirtatious sexual nuances for the sake of it is a waste of my time. I let them know that!! A little flirting is fine, however I do want to meet a young man and make a connection. I urge you not to give up because there are men out there who want the same. It's just takes time and patience. I also wish that there was a site specifically for younger men who are truly interested in older women. Mind you not just in that well known sexual/cougar relationship. I have dated men who truly only want to be connected and in a relationship with an older women. I just think it would be easier for me that way I wouldn't have to deal with the older men hitting on me when in fact I am not interested. I am not sure if you date younger, older or you have no preference. One thing I might add is that some men just like us, are either a little shy or afraid of rejection. In that case they use the wink as the first step to see if the woman is interested. This is why I do respond to winks if I like what I see and read. Then If I get a email that leaves me with a weird feeling I don't pursue it. I do however try and let them know. Sometimes I can't because I just don't have the time to email everyone. I have a hard time responding to a guy who doesn't have a photo. Actually I like to see a few and please one without sunglasses so I can see your eyes!! Anyway I have met a few nice looking men who sent pictures that I had requested. They happened to be honest about what their appearance was, plus they had a great profile. I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I've learned to trust my intuition, it's usually bang on!! Just my two cents...what ever it's worth :D
Hi Kahlua,
This is what I've found when doing online dating. It is easy for people, in this case men to hide behind emails, winks, texts and IMS. This way you take the personalization out of it. Plus it is easy just to fade away, to not be accountable. This has always been a huge frustration for me. I think the world we live in technologically allows for this. It is such a shame. People no longer really connect, I am deeply saddened by it. It is not you, believe me it has happened to me time and time again. I find I don't have high expectations anymore. How sad is that. I can understand someone losing interest due to various reasons. I certainly have. However I make it clear in my profile what I want. So to be played with, such as flirtatious sexual nuances for the sake of it is a waste of my time. I let them know that!! A little flirting is fine, however I do want to meet a young man and make a connection. I urge you not to give up because there are men out there who want the same. It's just takes time and patience. I also wish that there was a site specifically for younger men who are truly interested in older women. Mind you not just in that well known sexual/cougar relationship. I have dated men who truly only want to be connected and in a relationship with an older women. I just think it would be easier for me that way I wouldn't have to deal with the older men hitting on me when in fact I am not interested. I am not sure if you date younger, older or you have no preference. One thing I might add is that some men just like us, are either a little shy or afraid of rejection. In that case they use the wink as the first step to see if the woman is interested. This is why I do respond to winks if I like what I see and read. Then If I get a email that leaves me with a weird feeling I don't pursue it. I do however try and let them know. Sometimes I can't because I just don't have the time to email everyone. I have a hard time responding to a guy who doesn't have a photo. Actually I like to see a few and please one without sunglasses so I can see your eyes!! Anyway I have met a few nice looking men who sent pictures that I had requested. They happened to be honest about what their appearance was, plus they had a great profile. I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I've learned to trust my intuition, it's usually bang on!! Just my two cents...what ever it's worth :D
These are very good questions. From everything I've read on these blogs and in the forums, not many people actually CONNECT on this site. People are too far away from each other. That's the problem with this online thing.
These are very good questions. From everything I've read on these blogs and in the forums, not many people actually CONNECT on this site. People are too far away from each other. That's the problem with this online thing.
I do not know why it is you just do not get it. No one, me in particular, is trying to run you down nor denigrate your cultural origins - after all the latter are part of many North Americans. However, you seem to always take every response entirely personally and react accordingly. Despite your rationale, many of us longer-term female contributors have turned off the wink option. go back over the years and the blogs are still there - we all felt the same futility of having to respond and initiate a reply when not truly understanding what had made a winker interested in us in the first place. That should not be hard to comprehend - it is hard to reply to someone when you don't have a clue. That is where a wink put you sooooooooo many of us turned off that option. As such, if you have winked at any such women, they will not receive it.
I do not know why it is you just do not get it. No one, me in particular, is trying to run you down nor denigrate your cultural origins - after all the latter are part of many North Americans. However, you seem to always take every response entirely personally and react accordingly. Despite your rationale, many of us longer-term female contributors have turned off the wink option. go back over the years and the blogs are still there - we all felt the same futility of having to respond and initiate a reply when not truly understanding what had made a winker interested in us in the first place. That should not be hard to comprehend - it is hard to reply to someone when you don't have a clue. That is where a wink put you sooooooooo many of us turned off that option. As such, if you have winked at any such women, they will not receive it.
To jsmoothfingers, over the last few years many of us contributors decided to turn off the wink option. That was because it never seemed to go anywhere and even if the female/I replied, that was the end of it or it put the responsibility upon the recipient to initiate the conversation which is wrong since something in their profile interested the winker in the first place.
To jsmoothfingers, over the last few years many of us contributors decided to turn off the wink option. That was because it never seemed to go anywhere and even if the female/I replied, that was the end of it or it put the responsibility upon the recipient to initiate the conversation which is wrong since something in their profile interested the winker in the first place.
Well, darling most women here do not repond to winks as the other guy mention below. Why not move on to some one who will respond back to you!
I'd sent out many and no repsond back and yes, I'm a great guy thats willing to go out on a date with a lovely women such as the one's listed in this particular blog.
Blessings to all.
june
cougarsandgents
Well, darling most women here do not repond to winks as the other guy mention below. Why not move on to some one who will respond back to you! I'd sent out many and no repsond back and yes, I'm a great guy thats willing to go out on a date with a lovely women such as the one's listed in this particular blog. Blessings to all. june cougarsandgents
Unfortunately it seems like the majority of men on here don't really want to meet. Or if they do, its simply for one thing. I met one person on here in person, and hoped it would go farther, but long story short.. it didn't. Still hopeful but not hoping, if that makes sense.
Unfortunately it seems like the majority of men on here don't really want to meet. Or if they do, its simply for one thing. I met one person on here in person, and hoped it would go farther, but long story short.. it didn't. Still hopeful but not hoping, if that makes sense.
Hi Sunflower, I am a tad late in making a reply because I had completely forgotten about this site until recently. I agree with your sentiments hence the reason I dont allow myself to be drawn into a virtual relationship with any guy which can lead to wasted emotions. I prefer to chat from time to time, meet as soon as possible if distance permits. If on meeting there is an attraction...fine..if there isnt then no harm done and no pain felt. ..simple really
Hi Sunflower, I am a tad late in making a reply because I had completely forgotten about this site until recently. I agree with your sentiments hence the reason I dont allow myself to be drawn into a virtual relationship with any guy which can lead to wasted emotions. I prefer to chat from time to time, meet as soon as possible if distance permits. If on meeting there is an attraction...fine..if there isnt then no harm done and no pain felt. ..simple really
Gatorgrrrl.....That "scammer" surfaced again recentlty, albeit briefly, with some sob story about having to sever ties with his "family" in Michigan....lol. Such a liar! What he was after, I have no clue!
I hope all is well with you in FL. Two "real" dates for me from here and several lifelong friends of both genders. Way too much sifting to spend too much precious time here.
Luck To All!
Dreamer
Gatorgrrrl.....That "scammer" surfaced again recentlty, albeit briefly, with some sob story about having to sever ties with his "family" in Michigan....lol. Such a liar! What he was after, I have no clue! I hope all is well with you in FL. Two "real" dates for me from here and several lifelong friends of both genders. Way too much sifting to spend too much precious time here. Luck To All! Dreamer
I used to be a paying member, but I'm not any longer. I've met two really nice guys from this site and ended up dating both of them. I also met a total scammer on here too (HighDesertDreamer knows of whom I speak) and one guy who I've not met, but who I speak regularly to, and have for the last couple of years. I have to agree though, I think alot of guys on this site are just experimenting and quickly move on to someone else they may find more interesting.
I used to be a paying member, but I'm not any longer. I've met two really nice guys from this site and ended up dating both of them. I also met a total scammer on here too (HighDesertDreamer knows of whom I speak) and one guy who I've not met, but who I speak regularly to, and have for the last couple of years. I have to agree though, I think alot of guys on this site are just experimenting and quickly move on to someone else they may find more interesting.
Quoting: Originally posted by hidesertdreamer
Rock ON Sunflower!! I have met ALL of my agegap sweeties in the "real" world. They are out there. Good Luck!
Dreamer
Well while I'm not glad a lot of nice women are not meeting anybody great, I'm glad to know I'm not alone in that I've found everybody I dated also in real life. I have had friends, my mother included, who have met wonderful long-term partners from the net. However, seems it's not that many people from here actually hooking up.
Quoting: Originally posted by hidesertdreamer Rock ON Sunflower!! I have met ALL of my agegap sweeties in the "real" world. They are out there. Good Luck! Dreamer
Well while I'm not glad a lot of nice women are not meeting anybody great, I'm glad to know I'm not alone in that I've found everybody I dated also in real life. I have had friends, my mother included, who have met wonderful long-term partners from the net. However, seems it's not that many people from here actually hooking up.
