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Posted on May 31, 2010 at 07:02 PM

I Just wonder how many Men [and some women] would admit to having a mid life crisis, It is very common, they start evaluating their lives, Many buy very expensive cars and boats. Others break up their Marriages for a younger woman, Some start drinking heavily. Its a Syndrome that can hit any time between the ages of 35 and 55. There is a Forum on the Internet on this. And its happened to a lot of people I know.But most of the time Men won't admit it. Anyone experiencing anything like this?. Lets hear you.

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Posted on Jul 31, 2010 at 01:59 PM

Sure, I'm experiencing a mid-life crisis. When I saw the lack of value in what is culturely expected and realizing that there were many experienced that I had missed in my life it changed me a lot. For me, in stead of destructive actions, I started doing internal work to understand myself and culture better. My wife and I discused whether to experiment with a poly lifestyle. And some other growth opportunities were considered. Some of which we acted upon. This is a time in life that is a transition, not a problem time. Doug

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Posted on Jul 28, 2010 at 05:22 AM

Thank you, Pacman, All these comments are great, When I wrote this blog I wanted to just bring this subject up, because When Men and Women go though this it is a very lonley and bewildering time for them, and even they can't quite understand the way they feel. and I think seeing others going through the same thing would help. Please keep your comments coming.

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Posted on Jul 25, 2010 at 11:06 PM

Romanticlover, Thank you for your comments, and your honesty.

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Posted on Jul 24, 2010 at 04:43 PM

romanticlover59 I think tht you've overstated the money thing.I personally know of 3 teenaged girls who were up for a 30 + year age gap marriage and it certainly was'nt because of money being that those girls and the lucky blokes were all just ordinary working class.It is relevant to compare all types of examples which reflect the acceptance of large age gap OM/YW relationships some years ago with today regardless of wether those relationships involved film stars or not.The rarity of girls who are up for that these days has more to do with the pc garbage of the times we live in than anything to do with how much money is involved.

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Posted on Jul 24, 2010 at 10:35 AM

I will agree to some of the things people have written in this blog.  Men are different animals than women.  No doubt!!  I can't speak for the women but as a man I can tell you that most men would love to have sex with a younger woman, even two at the same time just to see what it's like.  The men can't tell me they haven't thought about it or read about it or seen it in a magazine or porn flick.  Men have a crisis all the time when it comes to sex.  There are a few exceptions as in every case, but as a whole I think men have a crisis.  We can't stop looking, and most of us can't say no if it presents itself, it is soooo hard to say noooooooooo to the beauty of a woman's body and how it feels to us.  We as men always seem to want to prove ourselves to a woman.  We don't like rejection for sure as it either makes us angry or hurts us from an ego stand point.  We start evaluating ourselves.  In fact, we seem to evaluate ourselves all the time.  But back to the question is it a midlife crisis or not.  Is there such a thing.  I don't think so really.  I would call it a panic moment when we see the the life we have lived versus the life we have left and we begin to evaluate our lives in many instances.  I don't see how ordinary people can use movie stars, sports stars etc. as any type of examples.  Why not use some rich person we know versus ourselves. Same difference.  There are women out there as well as men who would go out with anyone who has a lot of money to spend on them.  They could be younger or older, it doesn't make a difference.  The color of money has a tendency to change us and how we think, screw the age gap, green is prettier than most anything to some people unfortunately.  One thing I will say, and some of you have touched upon this in some of the blogs.  I really believe that if you have the right partner, whether it be man or woman, and you are good friends and good lovers together, you really don't and won't have a crisis because the two of you always keep it fresh, lively, and down right hot!!!  That to me is the success of missing out on any crisis, call it what you will. 


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Posted on Jul 24, 2010 at 09:56 AM

Midlife crisis, what a great topic.  I have also read articles on the subject but yet I'm not sure I believe there is one.  I think to some degree we have a crisis from the days when we start thinking what the other person thinks of us in regard to appearance, actions, sexually perhaps, and a host of other things.  When we look at ourselves in the mirror what do we see really?  We tend to see the things that are wrong with us instead of what is right with us.  That in and of itself is a crisis of sorts.  We are too fat, to thin, not enough hair, boobs are sagging, to big, to little, no contact lenses, teeth aren't white enough, damn those cigarettes or cigars!!  That in of itself is a crisis!  Then we talk about midlife.  No, I don't think we have one as our crisis goes on daily.  I will say as we get older our crisis' change.  They get magnified.  I'm to old, too ugly, to thin, to fat, to bald, etc. etc. etc.. Then of all things we start worrying more about our sex life as if we didn't have enough to worry about when we get older.  I know as a man I worry about having sex.  I'm still very vibrant and want a woman to have sex with me, but then I worry about all the other things I mentioned.  Time is running out, I have to hurry up and have it before I can't have it anymore.  More and more stress added on to ourselves.  Yes, some of the decisions we make because of all our crisis' do tend to affect other people at times, that is so correct.  Not fair, not right, but sometimes we let our emotions dictate what we do, when we do them, and how we do them.  There will come a time when we just won't give a damn about anything anymore.  To hell with what people see us as.  I don't care if I impress anyone at any time.  Well guess what, that is the time when we are too old!! 


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Posted on Jul 24, 2010 at 09:54 AM

Is there a thing as more than one midlife crisis? I think I am having one once a month now, I dont buy expensive things because I dont have that kind of money, and I always wish there was a cute girl to have a relationship with. I am always looking back and at my current life and wondering why it is the way it is.

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Posted on Jul 18, 2010 at 03:19 AM

Older is Bolder, I am very happy that you had a happy ending. Such a releif to be loved when your self esteem has been put down for so long. But there are good women here too.

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Posted on Jul 16, 2010 at 05:09 AM

i sure did after 23 years of being told i own nothing and im just a nobody (HER OPINION ONLY)gave up a new home everything in it took me my cat and dog and went into a stay safe mode for 7 yrs.Then i met a wonderfull asian women from the philippines and never looked back.Life is grand now i met her in 08 married in 09 and to this day we have only good things to say to each other and i have never been so spoiled in my life i live here 6 months (summer)and there for the winter and im richer today in everyway a man could ask for amd monetary issues never come up as to who owns what its a total sponcership of love and respect for each other

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Posted on Jul 15, 2010 at 06:45 PM

Mango, I really like your comment, and I really get it. LOL!

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Posted on Jul 13, 2010 at 11:31 PM

I agree with Jag that men age much slower than us women (mentally, that is!!!) Physically, they still have the same wrinkles and saggy skin as the rest of us. They only believe in their minds that they look better!!

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Posted on Jul 13, 2010 at 08:13 PM

My whole life has been a crisis. What else is new.


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Posted on Jul 12, 2010 at 04:30 PM

Hello, You seem to be quite open minded and intelligent. I am surpised that you are not receiving responses to your blogs. I would be happy to communicate with you. ;-)

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Posted on Jul 10, 2010 at 07:28 PM

But readytobeused, what happened to that relationship? And I do not find it strange, I have known too many people who want a "f--- buddy" if there is no one else around. Some of us however refrain and keep our minds and lives open for a more serious challenge.

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Posted on Jul 08, 2010 at 04:39 AM

Hello Summervisitor, It is hard at first but after a while its not bad at all because you have time to catch up on things that you just didn't have time for. But I have a feeling you won't be alone for long.

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Posted on Jul 05, 2010 at 02:00 AM

I too had a mid life crisis. There was a girl 23 that wanted a sexual relationship with me 38. It was exciting, dangerous, saitisfying. She made me feel young and wanted.

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Posted on Jul 05, 2010 at 01:59 AM

I too had a mid life crisis. There was a girl 23 that wanted a sexual relationship with me 38. It was exciting, dangerous, saitisfying. She made me feel young and wanted.

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Posted on Jul 03, 2010 at 09:23 PM

Thank you Apache Tribe. Everyones opinions are welcome, but I would like to hear more of them. come on lets hear yours.

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Posted on Jul 03, 2010 at 11:46 AM

any ladies here from eugene oregon?

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