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Posted on Oct 30, 2011 at 11:14 PM

A good looking older lady is a cougar and a good looking older gentleman is a silver fox. Just curious of what everyone thinks about two simple questions..... 1. What is it about and age gap relationship that turns you on physically and mentally? 2. The truth to any age gap relationship is that over time, one will be taking care of the other in a more parent child relationship.Will that still turn you on? If you’re only attracted to people considerably older or younger and it’s their age you’re attracted to and not their personality, it may be worth talking things over with a counsellor or therapist.

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Posted on Nov 06, 2011 at 09:06 PM

I have to go along with Helena and Litenbrite here and say that my preference for younger men is just that...a PREFERENCE. I also don't date outside my lily white skinned Euro blood...does that make me racist? I don't think so...again, just a preference. I can't help lusting over lean & fit, blue-eyed men, anymore than someone else prefers straight hair over curly. I'm not saying I could NEVER fall for an olive-skinned man with dark eyes (that would describe 2 of my brothers if you care to get Freudian) but my current love interest just happens to be 31, lean & fit...with blue eyes. And to answer to the statement that 20 year old girls will always be more attractive than their mature counterparts...I call B***sh**. My man was specifically seeking out a woman over 50 for a LTR. Do we both need help? I don't know the answer, but I DO know what happiness feels like, and that's exactly what we feel.

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Posted on Oct 31, 2011 at 10:46 AM

In response Micason, I cannot quantify what it is about younger that attracts me.  Initially I was approached by much younger men who were not particularly on my radar exclusively.  I am much more attracted by personality etc. and age just divulges itself as a side issue later on.

Your observation that ultimately the older of the couple will probably become impaired healthwise is statistically true but my mother (92) still lives alone as did my grandmother at that age.  We do not seem to have a long lingering decline and so your scenario is unlikely to be the case with me.   A  younger man with not so solid a genetic background could easily have a stroke or other condition long before I do so no, it is not a consideration. 

 


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Posted on Oct 31, 2011 at 07:01 AM

Micason The fact is a good looking girl in her teens/20's is always going to be more attractive than a good looking Cougar in her middle age.Added to that is the attraction of the younger girl's child bearing and rearing ability (if she wants to use it instead of going to college and devoting her time to a career until she's in her 30's instead which sort of defeats the object) which doesn't take a therapist to work out why. However there still seems to be that so often mistaken stereotypical idea,in your post,that an age gap marriage in some way has any connection with a parent child relationship,which is plainly wrong. There's no more reason as to why a wife in an age gap marriage should view an older husband as a father figure than she would a husband of her own age especially if that older husband is already the father of her own children.It's those who confuse age gap relationships and marriages with the parent child relationship who really need to see a counsellor.

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Posted on Oct 31, 2011 at 02:40 AM

Hello Micason, This is simular to the blog I wrote, [Would be interesting} but you have specific questions. Personaly since my thirties I have always had younger men attracted to me, and seem to have much more Chemistry with a younger man. I tried going out with 2 men my own age one wanted companionship. The other one only liked skinny women and told me to go on a diet, [ I am not fat but have natural curves] I thought that a bit offputting. where a younger man loves my curves. I really dont think there is anything wrong with having an age difference relationship, either way, as long as the younger is within legal age, but I dont think I would have anything in common with someone in their twenties. and would not want to stop them being with someone that could have Children. And why would they need Therapy its only a choice, Where it gets a little weird is when a person lays down their own laws that someone has to behave the way they want them too. I have 3 Psychotherapist friends, and they they don't think its odd that I prefer younger men. Why should you have to have Therapy as long as it isnt an OBSESSION. and as far as having to care for the other, that can happen in any relationship regardless of age. My Grandmother lived with someone 14 years younger for years and outlived him and was still climbing ladders and cleaning and looked great until she was 96. It isnt really about age, its about the qualities of people in certain age groups, and  Incidently I also have a little Kink for Irish accents...I don't insist on it ......but what is that about??? Lol


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