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Posted on Jun 19, 2010 at 07:50 PM

Ok, so here goes a simple question... Ok, maybe two or more. :) Again with the younger men, older woman situation. It has been asked many times if a younger man would really want a relationship with an older woman. Some of the replies were positive on the other blogs and in turn that is a great position to read and understand. So may I ask, to the younger men, what is it that most would be honestly looking for? How many of you can carry a conversation about more than just wanting to get the woman in bed. (For the lack of using words some younger men have put to me.) Do the few of the younger men who are honest and sincere in wanting to meet a older woman, know how to carry a conversation of more than "I wanna fuk"? I am sorry, that sound crass and rude, but honestly, that is part of what is bother me about those who do contact me. I wont deny that the idea of sex is in everyones (mine) mind, but it is NOT the only thing I am thinking about. I enjoy a good lighthearted conversation every bit as much as a passionate kiss. The idea that the man might want to be out in public with me every bit as much as he might want to be between the sheets.. The fact is that I have a heart a soul and a mind. I like to share it with the people who know and understand what they are, how to treat someone with respect as well as understanding. So forgive me for feeling a bit on the "used" side if only in words. I just had to voice my thoughts to see how many might understand or agree.

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Posted on Sep 10, 2011 at 05:08 AM

seriously not all men are what you paint them

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Posted on Aug 29, 2010 at 08:54 PM

ldydiane, I can see and sympathize with where you're coming from. Personally, I've never been the one for casual encounters or one night stands, I'm more about the romance, letting a woman know its all about her, because it should be. Girls my age tend to take advantage of the 'nice guy' that they all claim to be looking for. It seems to me that they like to play nothing but games, both with the head and the heart. I look for relationships, and older women seem to be the ones that bring what I want to the table.

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Posted on Aug 06, 2010 at 02:55 PM

Codos!! Your're right on....but then I'm 65, and too old for most women...even with my mature knowledge of life.

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Posted on Jul 10, 2010 at 07:20 PM

Ladydiane you have been on this site longer than I have and what you say comes from experience. I think you are right and all I can add is if one keeps looking, someone on the same wavelenth will eventually appear - it may take a lot of time but you know what will make you happy so go for it.

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Posted on Jun 29, 2010 at 09:05 PM

Thank you for your imput Claudia, I am not naive at the basics where most all humans are concerned. The physical/sexual aspects are there for all of us. (If we are honest with ourselves at least). My problem has been with the idea of some of the younger men being dishonest about what they want to begin with. Part of the draw for men where a younger man is concerned, is that they are ALIVE, they still know how to laugh, they listen to you, want to hear what you have to say. (That is the few REAL younger men I have met). Their drive, their want to please every bit as much as I do is wonderful. The biggest problem I have found is there are younger men who are all talk... When the option is UP.. and plans are made, THEY CHANGE THEIR Minds. Ok, I know women do it too, so it isn't just men of any age. It does begin to make the desire and faith fade. Thank You again for the input. Luck to All

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Posted on Jun 29, 2010 at 02:38 PM

Claudia 2000 it's also many women who are blunt and outspoken about looking for a casual relationship not just the blokes.The really wierd thing is why do women like ldydian complain about the situation in view of her profile.However most blokes in their 20's are actually looking for a wife not a casual relationship just like I was then as now.

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Posted on Jun 27, 2010 at 02:39 PM

Hello "ldydiane", I'm really sorry you feel that way... I'm sure there must be a good deal of young men out there who would be interested in getting to know you in another level. On the other hand I suppose it would be naive of you not to think that men in their twenties would have a very strong sexual drive and that for the time being, they might not be interested in another kind of relationship. That these men be younger than you shouldn't be a problem, maybe it's all about how young and especially how mature they are themselves. I believe what really matters here is how clear and honest people be when they interact in sites like this one. I agree with Jag6000 (for the first time, lol) If a person says "casual" that is exactly what they mean) and most men here (especially the very young) are blunt and outspoken about that. So I guess what you need is a little bit of patience. As long as you're determined to get exactly what you want and accept nothing else you really have nothing to lose. Good luck!

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Posted on Jun 25, 2010 at 06:18 AM

Helena I'd say that I was being at least as honest as ldydiane and Lucasa.If a profile says that a person is looking for a casual relationship why complain when they find it.


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Posted on Jun 24, 2010 at 11:32 PM

ladydiane thank you for your insightful comments and please ignore those of Jag and look more to Lucasa for honesty. Having spent 12 years of my life with a man 20 years my junior I can confirm what you and Lucasa say viz. some men want the sex and have no confidence in relationships with women of their own age group, other men prefer the maturity and experience of an older woman. There really are men out there who love us older people for all the right reasons but they truly are few and far between.

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Posted on Jun 23, 2010 at 11:45 AM

ldydiane

Maybe women who complain about being 'used' for casual sex might not get 'used' in that way if they were'nt looking to get used in that way.However a casual 'relationship' seems to me to be what many women are actually looking for,according to their profiles,on this site and probably many other sites.


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Posted on Jun 22, 2010 at 12:13 PM

Speaking from personal experience when I was younger, In my late 20s, I had a couple of relationships with women 10 plus years older than me. And I liked them for they were as people. I enjoyed sharing the company and being with them based upon who they were. so my answer to you would be,just like it would about men closer to your own age. Some men just want sex, other men want real relationships. Of course they younger the guy the more they will think only about sex, but there are those younger ones who do want more. I know I was was one of them.

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Posted on Jun 20, 2010 at 07:39 PM

Some guys are just like that,maybe even some women,what can you do?


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Posted on Jun 20, 2010 at 03:32 PM

Ldydiane, Very well put, I like your blog. It will be interesting to see how many comments you get and their contents.

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