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Posted on Aug 06, 2010 at 01:36 PM

I would love to be in the Ukraine... If only Yulia Tymoshenko wasn't married...

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Posted on Aug 05, 2010 at 05:19 AM

Thanks Searching but it seems that you and some others have'nt read my posts closely enough.I'm not only searching for just a girl in her teens I'm also happy to search for one in her 20's it's just that I'd prefer to find one who's in her teens and yes you're right the issue of an older bloke having children late in life does mean,on the law of averages,that he'll propably be gone earlier in his children's lives than if he was lucky enough to have had a family when he was younger.BUT.As I've said before I know all about that issue from both sides in having a Grandfather who died when my Dad was 14.I've also got some other relatives who lost their Dad when they were younger than that.In all of those cases my Dad told me that it was worse to see his mother go through a long term serious age related illness and then die at 86 when my Dad was 45.So yes I know that it's possible for a woman to get pregnant naturally even in her 40's but it's far better for parents to have children when those parents are as young as possible or at worst only the father is relatively older.But your idea is the worst of all worlds in that you're giving children two relatively old parents BOTH of who are likely to be gone before those children should have to go through the loss of their parents.But as any soldier will tell you it's always best that if one parent has to go early then it's the father not the mother who is the one to go.Anyway I've argued my case as best I can and I'd suggest again that you read the story of Joe and Nicola Philpot.On that note there's absolutely no way that I'll ever change my mind and maybe it's you who needs to think again because while there's examples out there of older married/seperated/divorced blokes,being given second or more chances in life to have second or more wives and families,by much younger single girls,then why should a single bloke be denied just one chance in life to have just one wife and family with one of those girls ??.By the way I think Michael Douglas is American and I've not heard any complaints from over there about his large age gap relationship and marriage with a much younger woman and exactly how many under 18 teenaged mothers have you known personally ??.I've known at least 3 and none of those were mentally too young to marry and have children and none of them would have dreamed of throwing their children out with the garbage or for that matter have them aborted,adopted,or any of the other things often associated with teenaged pregnancy.However there maybe a case to answer in that society often puts pressure on teenaged mothers to do exactly that and it is'nt surprising that some of them listen to that pressure.In fact we've got a sick society in which healthy unborn children are often aborted just because their mother is arbitrarily judged by the feminists as being too young to look after them or because of economic reasons in which young parents are'nt paid enough to raise a family at exactly the age when they should be doing exactly that.Meanwhile we've got older women who listened to all the feminist bs being given IVF treatment to have children when it's biologically too late.But having said that an older father can offer a much younger wife more financial and emotional support and stability to raise a family than a younger teenaged father could which can often provide even more protection against a teenaged mother dumping her child/children.In addition to that there's more chance of a same age relationship breaking down because of the rate which women age compared to men.So you then get the scenario of the husband running out on his wife and family,for a younger model,long before his wife has reached 40 and everyone then blaming it on their age when they married when in fact it was the lack of a large age gap between the husband and wife which was the actual cause.However,as in the case of one of those 3 teenaged mothers who I knew,who's husband ran out on her for another teenaged girl,it is possible for a teenaged mum to find herself dumped even by a much older bloke.But in her case I blame that on her for choosing a bloke who already had a track record of dumping an ex wife when she could have given me,being a single bloke looking for just one chance in life,a chance instead.But that's got nothing to do with her mental ability at the time as there's plenty of older women than her who've made the same mistake.

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Posted on Aug 04, 2010 at 05:50 PM

Litenbrite and Jag6000,thanks for your comments.Jag6000,if I recall you said a older woman may not be the berst mother since she will not live as long.However,do you realize that someone could use the same argument about older men like us.Someone may say it is not fair to the children ,since we will not live as long.As for the point about girls under the age of 18.We disagree on that.I feel they are not mature enough emotionally and mentally to reach such a decision.The law may be different in your country.Besides,if a young girl  under 18 gety pregnant,she may not be able to take care of it.Or maybe she will not want her parents to know,there have actually been a few cases in the United States of some of these girls literally throwing the baby in the trash,or even worse.Fortunately,they are now  allow to leave the baby at the hospital.As least,then someone can take care of it.Litenbrite,also pointed out,that a woman can have a child in later years.This is true.A few have had them at 40.Also,that is not common.It is true a woman is less fertile as she get older.However,she can sometimes still have children in later years.Oddly,a man can father children as late as 80.Seems like a sadistic joke,since the man is muh less likely to find a younger woman as he get older.Litenbrite,you said Jag6000,may have been shy as a young man.I do not know about him being shy,however I will admit that I was indeed shy as a young man ,Possibly,because of my speech defect.In addition,a lot of persons are biased about that.They think there is something mentally wrong with you.In some cases,maybe not all.They just decided that without finding out.Anyhow,why ever I am in this situation,my fault or not,I tried to get out of it.If it is ever possible at this late stage of life.Anyhow,good luck to you.Jag6000.I think from going throught the blogs you have been on this site a long time.Aren,t you getting some replies or dates by now?If you do not want to change your criteria,maybe you should try to figure out why it is not working.You can try to find someone in the United States,if you want.However,unfortunately while it is a great country it may not be the best country for age-gap relationships.You may find one.However,it is very hard to do it here.If you do not like Phillipines,there may be other countries.Anyhow,good luck.


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Posted on Aug 04, 2010 at 06:02 AM

Sorry litenbrite but I've heard that type of stuff,(for want of a better word beginning with s), more than enough times over the years including,believe it or not,from my own parents.No it was'nt my own fault.The only difference between now and when I was young is that hindsight has made me shoot that type of bs down and stand up for myself instead of just taking that type of garbage argument and putting it all down to experience.I've raised some points related to the unfair rules of the game,the erratic criterea which girls apply in their choices, and bs double standards which society applies concerning relationships in which some blokes benefit and some blokes don't.Unfortunately I'm one of the ones who did'nt and it's not surprising that often it's the good blokes who don't win out in a world with bad morals and girls who have'nt got a clue when it comes to sorting the good blokes from the bad ones.That's why there's blokes like me out here and girls like sweetelisum.Also if you'd read my post concerning teenaged pregnancy versus middle aged pregnancy you'd have seen that I said ON THE LAW OF AVERAGES and as I said I come from a family in which I've seen more than once what it's like to lose a relatively old mother to old age too soon in life and in which there are some examples of teenaged pregnancy and some examples of middle aged pregnancy and you'd be on the losing side in an argument with those younger girls and their children on which idea is best.Having said all that if it's a case of a bloke being shy then it's a measure of a girl's personality wether she can overlook that and not hold it against him by giving him one chance in life instead of giving a married/seperated/divorced bloke more than one.It's also not my fault that in addition to losing out to much older blokes when I was young,who benefitted from a totally different societal view of age large age gap relationships,I'm now losing out because of a massive shift in those societal views when it comes to me looking for a similar type of large age gap relationship myself.Although nothing seems to change in that society seems to think that it's better for those married/seperated/divorced blokes to be given second or more chances in life,with young single girls,than it is for me to be given one chance being single.Yeah right litenbrite leave the divorced middle aged women for the Michael Douglases of this world and I'll take the 25 year + age gap relationship with one of the younger,single Catherine Zeta Joneses thanks .What price your bs argument concerning shyness etc now ???.

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Posted on Aug 03, 2010 at 01:19 AM

Jag, Your off on one again. Stop it, You should have made more effort when you were a young young man, you keep saying you didn't get a chance, you had as much of a chance as anyone else. if it was Shyness.....blame no-one but yourself, You could have overcome it, if it was emotions....you yourself are in charge of those. You have so many EXCUSES. Admit it was your own fault. and nothing can be done about that.and we have all made mistakes. Look for someone that will love you first. My Mother was 36 when she had me, nothing wrong with me. and Parents that are older are fine, my Dad lived to 90. My Mother was 75 but had Spinal Meningitus and anyone could have caught that. even a 20 year old. and both my parents looked very young....and were mentaly sharp.

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Posted on Jul 22, 2010 at 06:34 AM

Searching at least we've brought the issues raised to the point where we can identify the massive difference in our ways of looking at things.Firstly my point is'nt only just based on the issue of fertility.My point is also about the age gap between mothers and their children in your politically correct idea of the world.It's wrong for children to be given a mother who is likely to be gone through natural causes,on the law of averages,30 years before her children.Surely it's better for a mum to see her children grow up to have children of their own and to see those grow up to make her at least a great grandmother.IE much closer spacing than 30 years + between the generations.Having said that you're definitely also wrong concerning that fertility issue as there's no way that a 30 something woman can be as naturally fertile as a girl in her teens.The fact is that you and those like you who have that wierd idea on life need to understand that a woman is'nt a 'kid' when she's in her mid teens which is why nature has given them their best child bearing ability at that age.Having lived in a family whith examples of both your idea of late/middle aged pregnancy in life in the case of some of the women and early/teenaged pregnancy in the case of others,I'd say that it's much better for the children who have the younger mothers.Most of the female members in the family also agree with me.Not least,as I've said because,as in my late Dad's case,it's a terrible thing in life to have to lose a mother to old age before you're well past middle age yourself.On the issue of early marriage and pregnancy your ideas and those like you are based on badly thought out criterea and usually on the issue of material wealth reasons in which girls are being forced into work at the time when they should be at home raising their families.Also your ideas there also seem to contradict some of your previous comments concerning women leaving having children until it's too late for them and in my book 30 + is too late for a woman to be a mother for more than just the reason of fertility and the idea of telling young women to wait until that age instead of their teens or 20's is a something alien,based on some very wierd,but all too common these days, thinking.However you still don't seem to have understood or addressed the other issues raised concerning the double standards being applied these days in the case of it being seen,in general,as ok for a mid/late teens girl to date and/or then marry a bloke of same/similar age but it's not considered as ok for a single middle aged bloke to to do that with a girl of that age.That's in addition to the fact that there's also no laws to stop the issue which I repeatedly raise of single blokes getting left on the shelf while married/seperated/divorced blokes get second or more chances in life with young single women.Having said all that there does seem to be something very strange about anyone who says that there's something wrong with girls in their teens having a normal serious heterosexual relationship and who wants to try to stop them doing something which is right and normal at that age.The bs modern feminist US view is slowly making it's way into the British/European way of thinking with the exception that the authorities and most people here seem ok with our laws on the age of consent if a girl under 18 has a physical relationship with someone of,or near to,her own age but it gets a lot more difficult here now where a large age gap is concerned regardless of wether she's under 18 or over that age.

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Posted on Jul 21, 2010 at 05:06 PM

Sorry.Jag6000.I still agree with the laws here about girls under 18.I have no interest in those.Besides women can have children well after that age.Why would you even need them.,Fertility often won,t decline until a woman is well within her thirtys.As for not all them being chastined under that age,unfortunately they are not all.Sometimes kids will do things they should not.We try to get the message  out to the kids here it is not a good idea at that age.Only as any parents can tell you,kids do not listen all the time.


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Posted on Jul 20, 2010 at 04:02 AM

Sorry Searching,but having seen middle aged divorcees date/marry under 18 girls when I was younger but having now been to parties where it's considered as taboo and socially unacceptable for me in middle age to even try doing the same thing,but it's considered ok for the young under 18 teenaged girls to date/marry blokes of nearer their own age,I'm going to stick to my guns.The law in England,as it still stands,to my knowledge,a girl of 16 can legally be involved in a physical relationship and can also marry with her parents permission or 18 without and the last time I saw the marriage at 16 law in action here was when my relative of 16 married a divorcee of 47.It's also legal here to DATE a girl under 16,but you can't have a physical relationship with her under that age,just as Joe Philpot did with his wife and my relative's husband did with her.However we now seem to be trying to apply the law on a selective basis,just like over there in the States,whereby it's considered ok for a bloke of same or similar age to date/marry a girl under 18 but not for an older bloke to do that.IE backdoor laws against age gap relationships at the point in life when a girl is more likely to be single.Under that idea and those laws you're just counting yourself out of a possible chance in life with a girl and handing that chance to a younger bloke just because of some arbitrary age issue which would'nt have been the case here or even moreso over there years ago as in Jerry Lee Lewis' case.As for waiting until a girl is over 18,the way it's looked at here now,is that those same taboos,concerning a middle aged bloke dating an under 18 girl,would still apply because they are based on the AGE GAP NOT the girl's age and by then she'll probably already be spoken for by a bloke of same or similar age with the encouragement of all concerned including the authorities.But are you trying to tell me that all US girls are kept in strict chastity from all blokes until they're 18 at which point they're then fair game for all regardless of the blokes' age ?? LOL LOL.If so those rules would probably actually work out fairer than what we've actually got now IF it's only single blokes not married/seperated/divorced ones allowed to go after them after they've reached that age.LOL.

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Posted on Jul 19, 2010 at 06:11 PM

Jag6000,thanks you for the advice,however I must be a hypocite.Because I think the laws here in the United States about girls under 18 are good ones.They are not mature,mentally and emotionally to make such a decision.It has nothing to do with anyone trying to save anyone for anyone.As far as probably never having children,you do not know that.I do not know what the law is in England,I would advice you to as least look for ones 18 years of age.Anyhbow,good luck in finding someone and having children.


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Posted on Jul 14, 2010 at 04:52 AM

litenbrite I might just try that idea in the future lol but somehow there seems to be something a bit unbelievable about a place where older western blokes are being 'besieged' by young Ukrainian girls but those blokes are still on this site obviously looking for someone.If it's true and I'd have found myself in that situation I'd have brought one home with me.IF IT'S TRUE that is.LOL.

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Posted on Jul 13, 2010 at 05:40 PM

Jag, Maybe you should have taken "Just Curiouse's advice and gone to the Ukraine instead of the Mediterranean. LOL!

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Posted on Jul 13, 2010 at 06:18 AM

truckindj The Americans (or the Brits) were'nt always so anally retentive about the age thing.It's a relatively recent pc thing in which,unlike Russia and some other countries,large age gap relationships between older men and much younger girls are now considered as a criminal perversion in the UK and the North America for some reason with such relationships often being viewed/confused as/with paedophilia etc.

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Posted on Jul 12, 2010 at 11:11 PM

Helena, Jag must be on vacation, he hasn't responded to my posts either.

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Posted on Jul 12, 2010 at 09:54 AM

Thanks Helena,litenbrite,searching,and just curious 123.Helena the reason why I did'nt make any comment at the time was because I went off for my summer holiday in the sun and warmth (blazing heat) of the meditteranean.Anyway the white T shirt did'nt work,as usual,on girls of well over 15 lol probably one of the reasons being that they were all already spoken for probably in many cases from when they were 15 lol.But I'm wondering if Joe Philpot was to read the advice given he'd now regret his decision to date a girl of 15 and then have a family with her and marry her by the the time she was 18.I'd guess that she and their children would say that you're all wrong and I'm right.But curious 123 it's not cynicism I'm just stating facts and searching and if you really want to have a family as you say then you need to think about the needs of any future children and giving them a middle aged mother is'nt an option from that point of view whereas a mother who's as close as possible in age to them is the best all round for them in most cases so I'll stay with my criterea and the bitterness I've expressed,of seeing divorcees getting the chance to do that,while I probably never will,should be seen as the justified complaint that it is not cynicism on my part.But searching the reason as to why they've made it 'jailbait' in the states for 'some' blokes to be looking for under 18 girls is mostly because those girls are being reserved for blokes who fit some subjective criterea concerning age,looks,and their career potential and regardless of the age issue the basic unfairness of laws which allow married/seperated/divorced blokes to get second or more chances in life to have a family with the few single girls out there remains.The fact is searching the world is being run by hypocrites who are making what are effectively a type of arranged marriages in which only men of the 'right' age can date eligible young single girls but also allowing the idea where blokes can get more than one chance in life to have another family with the few eligible single girls out there if they fail their first and what should be their only chance while others like me go without.curious 123 in that light it's going to take the type of girl who I'm looking for (she does'nt have to be 15 (but 30 is too old unfortunately) to change my outlook by at least accepting the offer of a date to give me something to laugh about.

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Posted on Jul 10, 2010 at 07:36 PM

Well Jag surprisingly did not respond with a long lecture/response to you,justcurious123, which is out of keeping for him. I have repeatedly given him similar advice over the last couple of years but he usually gets defensive when I am not meaning to attack him at all. Hopefully advice ooming from a male will be more accetable

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Posted on Jul 09, 2010 at 11:14 PM

Thanks you,Litenbrire.I did not know what you was talking about.Now,I do.Also,hope I can change my name to found.Thank you,


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Posted on Jul 09, 2010 at 12:56 PM

Searching, The post about the white shirt was a comment on Jags post,in his picture he is wearing a blue shirt that blends in the background, Also about 15 year old girls was reference to his post. Hope soon you will have to change your Age match name from "Searching" to "Found" Good luck.

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Posted on Jul 08, 2010 at 09:13 PM

Thanks for your encouraging words.I will try to rcall those.It will help.Yes,you are right there are others with handicaps.I also wish Jag6000 luck.However,do not know what the law is in England.I do believe a 15 years old is incapable emotionally and mentally of reaching a decision.Here ,in the United States of course,that is jailbait.I would never consider it.I am only interested in legally adult women.Besides a woman can actually sometimes in rare cases have a baby in their fortys.However,in most cases,their fertilty decline in their late thirtys.I have a friend who is my age,his wife is pregnant.I do not know how old she is,however I believe she is not that much younger than is he.So,in rare cases,a woman can surprise you.Point is the woman does not have to be really young.Of course,at a certain age,they may become incapable of having children.It is normal.However,I thought I had a green shirt in the photo and not blue.Maybe a white one would be better.As far as reporting scammers is concerned,Helena 2000,I have a couple of times.That is why Lonely Lauren is off the site.She was supposedly going to send me 2 million dollars,since her uncle wanted to kill her for the inheritance.Obviously,no one will send you that much money.Some trick,somewhere.Not sure what she was planning.


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Posted on Jul 08, 2010 at 01:14 AM

Seaching, You are so obviously a very sweet and kind man that has empathy for everyone but yourself. There are so many young women that are very shy and would love to have a child, but they want to be loved too, and have a kind sweet man that would stand by them. a speech impedament need not be a handicap, there are young women that have that too. How many people that are deaf as well as having problems with there speech that find each other and end up having a very healthy child. You are a very genuine man who isnt bitter, and I think you would be able to find a match to what you want...you just doubt it all the time. I think you would make a very good husband and Father. and there is somone out there looking for just what you have to offer. And Just Curious is so right about humour, I personaly have a very soft place in my heart for men that can make me laugh.

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Posted on Jul 08, 2010 at 12:41 AM

Jag, I just read your comment about my comment of wearing the white shirt. Well I gave you that advice not because of some feminist brainwashing or anything else like that, it was because you are quite a nice looking man. and you are not making the best of that fact, A white shirt stands out, catches your eye...then you look closer. If you are looking for someone young and she is looking for a man to Father her child...of course she is going to look first. You have a little tiny picture with a blue shirt that blends in the background. Looks obviously matter to you as you always look to young celebraty's to admire. So why wouldnt a young woman? I am not in the least bit a stupid woman, but I am a woman that was just trying to give you a tip as to what a woman would notice. SIMPLY THAT no complicated adjenda. I am not a shallow person at all, We have all been through times in our lives where we have felt heartbreak, but you can't dwell on it. You have to adapt and make the most of your life. Appreciate what you do have, and more things to appreciate will come. I have read so many of your posts Jag, I don't want to be judgemental but some of your refences to the laws that protect young girls and boys are unrealistic as no matter how much you complain that you were outdone of the opportunity to have a young girl when you were young, They are not going to change those laws to accomadate your desires. So what is the point of being so obsessed about that. You can still have the chance of meeting someone of childbearing age, that is a desire that could be realised. But not a girl of 15 who is not emotionaly mature. and I am sure underneath all of the bitterness that you are really a nice man. Please show us that side of you for a change.

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