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Posted on Sep 10, 2011 at 05:50 AM

litenbrite it's not that I don't 'want' to understand it's just that everything about my experience in life (don't forget at 52 I have got some by now)tells me that the idea seems flawed. Wether you're a single teenaged bloke or one who's just unlucky enough to still be single in middle age it makes no difference and the search criterea and methodology,for looking for a prospective wife,is going to be the same in both cases and I don't think that you'd be giving that advice to a teenaged bloke who's search criterea is exactly the same as mine in looking for a prospective wife to have a family in life with ?. In which case I'm sure that not many mothers would advise their sons to just look for friendship and nothing else with any woman they meet,if those sons are finding it hard going in pulling any of those girls who they are actually looking for and who hopefully might turn out to be the one.I know my mum never did and I'm sure if you're right that's what she would have done. I think that you are looking at the issue from the point of view of being an older woman,looking for some type of relationship,with a younger bloke.In which case I can understand how your logic might work out although I'd still say that taking your approach,of looking for something,just based on friendship with no chance of it going further,seems to be a flawed one even from that point of view,especially if that woman then found herself wishing that the new found friendship could go further,while knowing that it can't, in which case surely that's likely to just end up with the woman being hurt ?. To me it just seems like a case of shopping for chalk when you really need cheese.lol. I've got just one more question concerning a possible flaw in your plan.What happens in the event of being seen as getting on well with the 'friend',by a girl who fits the search criterea who just might have been interested and she puts 2 and 2 together and comes up with 5 and walks away ?.!!

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Posted on Sep 10, 2011 at 05:07 AM

Searching You got it. Jag never wants to understand what I am saying. :))


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Posted on Sep 09, 2011 at 07:37 PM

Thanks you,Jag and Litenbrite for your comments.I thought Litenbrite,s comments were very well put and true.Look,let me try to explain what I think Litenbrite is trying to say here.Whether you are looking for a younger woman or not,you got to understand the way women think.That is why having women of all ages as friends is beneficial.You do not have to marry any of these women or even have a relationship,if you do not want to.It is also social proof,having a lot of friends,both male and female.Besides ,maybe some of these women may even know of someone who may be interested and matches your criteria.Also on the web there are many dating gurus.Some better than others.Unfortunately,most of them are expensive and may put you into the poor house.However,many of them offer free newsletters,videos ,and p.d.f reports.Of course,I sure they want you to buy their other stuff.However,unless you want to,you do not have to.I have downloaded several of their free resources.However,only brought two e-books all this time from David DeAngelo that was reasonablely prized.If you subsribe to his free newsletter you should at least buy his book(Double Your Dating.)It was about twenty dollars when I got it.Well worth it.His newsletter is based on this book.I am not suggesting you go to a P2P site which is illegal.However,if someone will offer you their stuff free(which is completely legal)why not take advantage of the offer?

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Posted on Sep 09, 2011 at 04:02 AM

litenbrite From my point of view I think the analogy concerning that idea would be like if you're hungry buy something to eat.But you'll soon starve if you just keep coming home with a bottle of water instead.lol.Having said that I often have a nice long chat with one of the older female staff at one of the local shops.However that's never helped one bit in getting the (much) younger part time Saturday girl there to enter into a similar type of conversation let alone anything further. The same applies in the case of one of my distant relatives who is a bit younger than me but who I always fancied but who,as usual,went for a different bloke not me.We still get on like a house on fire but that doesn't help when it comes to getting her daughter now to even let be buy her a drink.lol.

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Posted on Sep 09, 2011 at 01:01 AM

Not every woman is looking for a serious relationship, sometimes its just having a little Male company. But it just opens up the connection with the opposite sex, To have some conversation and maybe some humour. doesn't mean she is expecting a proposal of Marriage. Or that she is going to be upset that its just a friendship.  Just talk to more women [nicely] no matter what age they are. It will give you more understanding of females than you have right now, You might even explain this to an older woman that would understand you wanting to have a family. plus in the company of a Woman, Younger women wouldn't find it creepy if an older man isnt hanging around by himself. So would be more acceptable to strike up a conversation that could include the Woman you were out with, [as long as she understands] Start liking every Woman....we are quite nice to be around you know.:))


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Posted on Sep 08, 2011 at 08:08 AM

Searching I still don't get the connection between searching for a female 'friend' who doesn't tick any other boxes and how that then is supposed help in the search for a prospective wife.Unless as I said it turns out that she's got a daughter etc who turns out to be interested and who does tick all the boxes.Somehow though I can't see as that is likely to make that new found friend happy in the friendship.Unless litenbrite knows better.lol.

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Posted on Sep 07, 2011 at 08:06 PM

Good advice about being open to female friendships,Litenbrite.Other things may open up later with luck.Of course nothinfg is ever guaranteed,still it is possible.

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Posted on Sep 07, 2011 at 06:49 AM

Litenbrite that seems to be the logic that I thought you were trying to get across.I can't see how doing that,even if that type of scenario was available,can work without someone getting hurt.So I'll give you a scenario as I see it and you can tell me if I've got it right and if that would be the right thing to do. (1) I'm looking for a serious relationship with a single (much) younger girl in the hope of having the wife and family that I've so far missed out on in life because of the reasons that I've been complaining about on here. (2)In the absence of that possibility (because those 'reasons' are as relevant to my situation in that search today as they've always been)I scrap my search criterea (on paper but not in reality)and then search for an older woman of around my own age,or even older going by today's modern ideas,just for friendship?.Assuming that older woman has any sense she's probably looking for something more and better from a relationship than just 'friendship'?.If not I'm trying to work out what's in this for her.Especially as the only way that I could see your idea working out,for me,is if that woman has a young daughter,or knows someone,who actually fits my (real) search criterea,or as you say some 'other opportinity' opens up from the friendship which then leads to something between myself and her not the woman who I started the friendship with.I think you can see that this scenario would all end in tears.lol. (3)The question is though how is it that you're reaching the conclusion that the only way for me to stand a chance of getting a date with a girl,who fits my search criterea,is to start some type of 'friendship' with a woman of probably my own age,or even older, and who doesn't fit my search criterea,in a 'friendship' that can't lead to anything more for her,on the flawed idea that friendship would in some way lead to 'other things opening up'for me ?.However in that case don't you think that there would be a good chance that the woman in question,who entered into such a 'friendship',would have been hoping for something more and end up getting hurt assuming that those 'other things' did open up for me, as you said,as a direct result of that friendship.Although I really can't understand how you're making the link as to why such a friendship would make any difference to the possibility of that happening ?.I'm more confused now than I was before.lol.

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Posted on Sep 06, 2011 at 10:38 PM

Jag. All that I am saying is open up to some kind of female comanion first, it might not be what you want but a step in the right direction...even if its only for friendship. Once that starts happening other things open up.


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Posted on Sep 06, 2011 at 06:25 AM

Sorry Litebrite but I just don't get what you're trying to explain.So assuming that I took your advice to 'compromise' to 'match' the changing tmes what exact choice would that then leave me with?.As I see it I'm being advised to forget my ideas and just accept all those implications of the 'changing times' that I've been complaining about.No chance.If the choice is between that or go without and just complain about the situation I'd prefer to do as I'm doing and just go without and complain about it all rather than accept some bloke's old dumped ex wife while he gets another chance in life to have another young wife and another family,for example.Although I'm still hoping that there just might be the right single girl out there who can understand my point of view. Other than that idea I don't consider that I've got anything to lose considering that I think that finding a single girl who's young enough to have a family of my own with is an essential ingredient for any relationship. But yes litenbrite I like this blog because there's far more to the issue of girls not being able to differentiate animal type relationships from human ones as I said.Such as concerning the issue of single girls preferring to give an unfaithful bloke,or a bloke who chose the wrong wife,another chance in life,than to give a single bloke just one.Let alone the issue of 'extended families' and all of the different types of scenarios that produce them.

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Posted on Sep 05, 2011 at 04:47 AM

Jag, You have your own idea's and if they are working for you..stick to them. However if they don't work for you. its time to re think. Times have changed, You cannot blame everyone else for you not getting what you want. You have to think of what Matches you. because what matches you is without doubt what you will get. Think of the precise statements you make all the time. You keep saying you can't find someone and you won't. Usually our wants and needs change with age and experience. And we compromise to what matches us. I have tried telling you this before but you just get annoyed with me. Its not my wish to annoy you, On a different note...dont you love this Blog?

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Posted on Sep 04, 2011 at 08:06 PM

Thank you,for all those comments.However,I never thought this blog would attract so many.Still,it was good to hear from you.

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Posted on Sep 02, 2011 at 02:19 AM

Jag, Sometimes Its not because the Divorced Man, or Dog was "Unfaithful" But the person they were with, was. I personally think its a great thing if anyone can find a little love. When you open up to possibilities it can happen. My friends Mum has found someone.....and she is 87 years old, its long distance they phone each other and visit each other, its wonderful to see. Now who's that woofing at my door? :)

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Posted on Aug 31, 2011 at 09:36 AM

Searching you definitely brought a smile to my face.  Since dogs l ove you irrespective of what you say and feel, they are very good confidantes LOL


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Posted on Aug 30, 2011 at 11:57 PM

Jag, You mean the more "Experienced" Dog. Lol!

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Posted on Aug 28, 2011 at 06:16 PM

I've noticed the situation for years now.  By the time women are in their 20s and on their own, if they haven't got a BF or a child, they get a pet.  Often they'll get several pets.  Some get one dog, so they can meet men when they're out walking the dog.

These same women that get lots of pets then state they want to travel the world.  Well how are we going to do that with all these pets?  A kennel or boarder is not a solution.

Time is so precious these days with work requirements and the needs of everyday life.  I want to spend my spare time with my woman, and I'd like the majority of her attention back.  These are reasons I seek a relationship without kids and pets.  A tough one to find indeed.


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Posted on Aug 27, 2011 at 01:00 AM

Hello Searching, Its not just Women that talk to their dogs, Lots of Men do this too, So my guess is Dogs are loved more than us!. Good Blog.

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Posted on Aug 26, 2011 at 06:02 AM

Searching that does'nt surprise me one bit.There also seems to be some other strange stuff going on in the minds of women these days in that if they're really happy about something or sad they often seem to prefer to celebrate,or to be comforted,in the arms of another woman rather than a bloke. But I think I've always known that a married/seperated/divorced dog has more chance of pulling a single girl and than I have.LOL.

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