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Posted on Aug 25, 2011 at 06:33 PM

I heard on the radio this week that some women actually spend more time talking to their dogs than their husbands or boyfriends.And to think that some of us are worried about another guy.When the real rival may be Fido.Is it too much to ask that it would have least be a human being,rather than a four leg animal?The fact that a woman would prefer to talk to a four legged animal has got to be a blow to a guy,s ego.maybe,if your wife or girlfriend want to buy a dog,that is when you should get jealous?

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Posted on Oct 23, 2011 at 09:03 AM

Yes,women here may help here.One thing,is the truth is some may not even know themshelves.As far as guys not being able to explain it,some like David Deangelo and Carlos Xuma are great at it.However,I really like the idea of women explaining it.

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Posted on Oct 21, 2011 at 07:13 AM

Searching the logic of relying on what a bloke has to say,about what makes women tick,seems flawed to me.I'm still waiting for one of the young women on here (if any exist) to get onto this topic and do some explaining for free.LOL.

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Posted on Oct 20, 2011 at 07:17 PM

Yes,Jag I can understand you not wanting to spend any money.You would go broked if you buy it all.Look I only brought 2 e-books for David DeAngelo,s all this time.Do not take his courses as I would be in the poor-house.However,some of these persons actually offer free stuff.Of course,being business persons they will try to sell you their paid stuff.Just do not buy it.They can not force you.I am not talking about going to a P-2-P site.Which is illegal and not worth the risk.Just see what is offer as free samples by these persons and get it.Of course make sure it is indeed free.I am got a lot of information this way.Best of all,most for free.Because,they offer it.I simply do not buy their paid stuff at the moment.All guys can probably benefit from knowing this stuff.Learning is useful.

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Posted on Oct 19, 2011 at 07:30 AM

Searching I won't be wasting any money on 'studying attraction' by women and whatever it is that triggers it.lol.I think I've seen enough examples over the years to know that it's a question that even most women themselves can't answer if you ask them.

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Posted on Oct 18, 2011 at 06:57 PM

Yes,Jag you are completely right that I can indeed recall the time when home computers were not common.Ony,got one a while ago.Too bad,it may have helped.Anyhow,it is good you are also trying other ways.Fact,is every one will get rejected at times.However,you will I think find someone.As far as social proof is concerned,that is only one thing.Have you ever read anything about attraction on the internet.Yes,I know if you buy a lot of the stuff,you,ll go into the poorhouse.As much of it is overpriced.However,many of these guys and ever some women offer free reports,videos and even mini-classes.Of course,they really hoping you will eventually buy their paid stuff.However,you do not have to.Just be careful.Make sure it is really free.And if you do buy anything,make sure it is rerasonable,worth it,guarantee,and won,t put you in the poorhouse,Some of these guys will actually charge hundreds of dollars.You do not want that.However,studying attraction and what triggers it,may help.Good luck.

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Posted on Oct 17, 2011 at 05:44 AM

Searching at this type of age you'd surely understand that most of our lives have been spent during the time when home computers and online dating sites didn't even exist and in my case I didn't even know how to use a computer of any sort until around 3 years ago. However the issues of rejection apply exactly the same,regardless of wether it's meeting girls in the usual real life situations or online.I've never found it to be an issue of meeting the girls or how I've met them.It's always been a problem of not enough single women out there and pulling the ones who are available without getting rejected and that applies regardless of wether I've met them at a party or online. However as I've said though if a girl needs 'social proof',of whatever type,before she'll give a single bloke a chance to get to know her,then she isn't worth the effort anyway and my experience tells me that the 'social proof' of a bloke having dumped an ex is probably worth a lot more to many girls than the 'social proof' of that bloke having some friends or not. Which probably explains why most,if not all,of the profiles of young single girls on dating sites,say that those girls are looking for a bloke who is married/seperated/divorced/in a relationship.Which just seems to confirm my experience even going back to the days before online dating ever existed. However I didn't see any clause,in the old saying,that there is (should be) someone for everyone out there,which says that it only applies,where the 'social proof' of having dumped an ex and/or having lots of friends can be provided first.The fact is I'm not using that type of criterea to judge a potential future wife and I don't expect to be judged in that way, by any woman,in return,either.

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Posted on Oct 16, 2011 at 02:16 PM

I was not necessarily talking about starting friendships only on dating sites with older women.Actually,friendships with younger,your age or older women or even men(no I am not gay.),may all provide social proof.The more you add to your social circle or your number of friends ,the more desirable you will maybe become.Besides,it is always good to have friends.Of course most,actually I would say all persons are looking for that special someone as well.Actuaally,on-line dating sites may actually be one of the most diffcult places for guys to met women.Maybe,too much competition.So,I hope you are trying to meet women someplace else other than on online dating services.You must get out into the real world as well.Maybe,one or two days or nights during the week and Friday or Saturday night also.Because,your future wife will probably not come to your home.On-line dating should only be one-avenue of looking.Not your only one.Yes,I do have friends on all ages.Not on these sort of sites.However,in my life.

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Posted on Oct 15, 2011 at 08:09 AM

litenbrite Sometimes the only way to (try to) change something that's wrong is to complain about it not laugh about it (with the exception of making a few comparisons with the way in which women seem to prefer giving their affections to an abandoned dog than someone who wants to give them something better and more human lol). But sorry litenbrite I don't agree with you, about the issue,of 'starting new friendships' with older women,on a dating site,if the object of the excercise is,actually,hopefully,to find a potential young wife,and where the motivation,for starting that friendship,with that older woman,is just based on the idea that it hopefully might provide the 'social proof' required,to stop that potential young wife from viewing that single bloke as a creep,because he's not married/seperated/divorced/in a relationship. I'm just clearly telling it like it is,in reality,from my point of view and if you want to view it all as a rant you're entitled to your view but that's not how it's meant.I'm sure that no sensible older woman,who's looking for a date on a dating site,is looking for THAT TYPE of pointless,flawed friendship and that's all I meant by 'pointless' in this case.In any any other circumstances of course there's absolutely nothing pointless about any type of friendship.Hope that's clarified my point of view. But you're right I'd really like to start a good lighthearted blog of my own about the fun and enjoyment which I've had in finding a good humoured,young, single girl,who is looking for an older single bloke on dating sites.But the fact is the average dog could probably provide something more positive,about it's experiences with female human relationships than I could which says everything.If only it could be trained to type.LOL.

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Posted on Oct 15, 2011 at 02:48 AM

JAG, Get it through your head.......Starting new friendships is NEVER POINTLESS, We can always learn, Maybe if you learn to like others...others will like you.       ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​    But its your choice, You must prefer your situation because you are never willing to listen to any advice on HOW TO CHANGE IT.       ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​        ​    HOW YOU THINK AND FEEL TODAY.....IS WHAT YOUR GOING TO GET TOMORROW. I will not bother trying anymore as all of your ranting has changed this light hearted blog to become a venting place for your frustrations. I have noticed you only ever comment on blogs, but never ever create one of your own. Its a shame because I have noticed on some ocasions you can have a good sense of humour.


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Posted on Oct 12, 2011 at 09:00 PM

Actually Jag I have always wished you success but it is you who have basically erected a fence against anyone interested in you.  Your criteria are very restricted and then you spout off in generalities about women who "wreck homes", who want to be with  married men etc.  There will always be people who will not honour the ties of marriage and who will mess around.  They probably have been that way all their lives and being legally wed will change nothing.  However many people chose to be married, like and enjoy being married and those cheap tricks will not affect such marriages.

 

Others of us find ourselves single at different points in our lives but poaching someone else's partner is no solution.  What is it that you do not understand about negativity?  Being upbeat and positive brings in tons of responses and admirers while whining about what the other guy got, does not.  Everytime I posted encouragement to anyone here, you replied with a very cynical depressing outlook.  I have met a wonderful young man who would like to meet me. He is good looking, well educated and intelligent.  It may or may not happen but I get a great deal of pleasure from his up beat conversations and outlook on life.


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Posted on Oct 11, 2011 at 06:06 AM

Helena I suggest that you read exactly what Searching actually said in relation to my comments.You can correct me if I'm wrong but as I read it he actually said that he 'agreed' with me that young,single women's logic is completely flawed.Searching also said that he knows that some (many in my experience) young single women find some single blokes 'creepy' just because we're single and not married/seperated/divorced.Something about 'social proof' according to him.But when the question of proof of what was raised,hopefully for any of the young women,who you say are out there and available,to answer,the silence was deafening. In which case,other than the fact that I don't agree with searching,or litenbrite,that starting pointless 'friendships' with older women,just to try to make those flawed thinking single girls feel better about us,will work,there's not really anything much different between Searching's view on the subject or mine.Although having said that Searching himself couldn't answer the question as to wether he would actually take up litenbrite's idea in the hope that it would make any difference. The fact is if there really are any young single girls looking for single blokes,on any dating sites,then it's just single blokes that they'd have written in their search criterea relating to relationship status not 'no preference' or married/seperated/divorced and I wouldn't be on here upsetting you,(for some unknown reason),with what you seem to think are negative comments,because I've seen a lifetime of single girls who'd prefer to wreck a home and/or give married/seperated/divorced blokes,more chances in life,than to give a single bloke just one. But not being able to understand what you're saying has nothing to do with 'wallowing in self pity' in my case.I actually consider myself very lucky to have not ended up in the situation that tiredchris did and there's plenty of other worse things in life that can happen than just being left on the shelf by girls who I'm probably better off without anyway. But in the case of your latest 'connection' I'll say the same as I said to litenbrite.Maybe he's just another bloke who's decided to take litenbrite's advice and be 'upbeat' about his situation,by accepting your offer of 'friendship',in the hope that it'll stop the ones who he's really after looking at him as a creep.lol.

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Posted on Oct 10, 2011 at 01:35 PM

Litenbrite, I gave up too once some months ago and left the site in frustration.  Now I am back and a paid up member, I do my utmost to encourage those who only put out negative vibes.  It seems that they chose to not understand what we are saying because they wallow in self pity.  That is the crux of why they are single - not that there are no available women out there as in Jag's case, and tiredChris.  Look how upbeat Searching is!!  He is someone to be admired and I too love this post.

I have NEVER asked a man out until a few days ago.  A much younger colleague advised me to cross my comfort zone and be the first to make contact.  You know what happened?  He smiled at me and said that he would love to go out with me.  Now I am like a teenager waiting the next step - how crazy is that LOL


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Posted on Oct 04, 2011 at 08:19 PM

Thank you.Litenbrite.Am glad you liked it.

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Posted on Oct 03, 2011 at 02:17 AM

Hello Searching, I love your blog, and made it my favourite. :))


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Posted on Sep 16, 2011 at 08:06 AM

litenbrite That's the bit I don't understand and where I think/know that many of the girls have got it all wrong.I've actually been in the situation of being that single bloke,both when I was at a young age and at an older age,checking out the single women while at the same time they're also being checked out by the married/seperated/divorced blokes.As searching says those girls seem to be happier about being stared at and chatted up by the married blokes rather than me because,as he puts it it's considered by the girls as 'social proof' but 'proof' of what who knows.The only proof that it 'should' provide them with is that it's those blokes who are the real creeps and someone who cheats on his wife and/or wants to dump her for another girl doesn't exactly have a good reference. The reason why you think it's like trying to get through to a very thick brick wall in this case is probably because my case is as strong as one while it's those girls who've got it all wrong.That's not my fault and having a few older female friends isn't going to help change that for me. But what is it that has changed the social ideas of girls to the point where they automatically think that there's something wrong with being found attractive by single blokes and then view them as creeps. However from my experience I think that the 'creep' thing is probably something blokes either get branded with or they don't,on a double standards basis, regardless of age and goes a long way in explaining why it is that some blokes get loads of women attracted to them through life while others don't regardless of wether they have lots of friends at dance classes or not.It would at least make it more bearable though if the girls just had the guts to just say so instead of leaving someone wondering why it is that they spent a lifetime of being rejected. Going by your criterea all blokes would be classed as desperate because,although it might come as a surprise to you,eyeing up young women is something that we're naturally programmed to do until we've got one.What doesn't come as a surprise to me though is the double standards applied by society in which some blokes get branded as desperate creeps,for doing what comes naturally,while others don't. On the subject of jealous and controlling I think you're confusing that with just the expectation of finding a girl who's loyal and who's committed to just one partner through life which is (supposed) to be human nature and who wants the same from a relationship in return.Any girl who doesn't think like that isn't worth the trouble of trying to start a relationship with and that has nothing whatsoever to do with age.

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Posted on Sep 14, 2011 at 06:40 PM

Well Jag, To see a Man always alone and never with a Woman. and he is maybe stareing at you can feel a little weird, If you hang out even with a bunch of Women friends and have a good laugh, Even learn Dancing or something you get to know more people. then you get invited to things, and it goes on from there. And you get a wider circle of friends. and you dont get thought of as this Man that just eyes up Young girls, You become a man who isnt so desperate. As you get used to Women. Broaden your Horizens. That is all I have to say now. Trying to convince you is like trying to get through a concrete wall 10 inches thick. But I'm trying to help you to open up your mind. Things now are not like they were when your Mum and Dad were young. And I know thats sad but its the way it is. You have to live in the now. When you go for a younger person, you have to concede more. that is always the case. Trouble is with that is that some older men and Women can get jealous and controling. and the younger ones won't put up with that. Your attitude is that you want what you want, and you havn't even met anyone let alone consider what they want. Maybe the Divorced Men have more idea of give and take because they know how to share with someone. I am not being mean to you, but these days there are very few young girls without experience. and I could see it would be like searching for a needle in a haystack. Unless you are a Billionaire and could offer them a life of absolute luxery. some younger women like older men "WHY" is because they have more understanding, and Give and take usualy. You are making Demands before you even met anyone. Be Easier about this, Open up your mind.


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Posted on Sep 13, 2011 at 07:46 PM

Good to hear from you again,Jag.In answer to your question I have not been in contact with any of the older women on this site or younger ones.The reason being I am no longer a paid member.I no longer believe in winks.I do believe having friends of all ages as friends is good.As far as someone thinking we are creepy.Some will.We can not do nothing about it.It,s life.Having friends is social proof,however,It shows other will accept you.Maybe,that why a lot of women preferred a divorce man.They think it is social proof.However,I agree with you,their logic is completely flawed.Look if the previous marriage did not work,why do they think another one will?unless there was a good reason for the divorce(sometimes there is.)Most of the time not.Anyhow,I saw something at the laundromat Sunday night that really made quite a impression on me.There was a couple there with a young child.When I got closer.I notice the man unfortunately had a deformed face,however he was with a very good looking woman.She must have looked into the inner person and decided that what really counted.Yet,most women would not.It was good to see someone felt that way.Now,if only we could find women like that.As least a few seem to be out there.

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Posted on Sep 12, 2011 at 11:30 PM

I give up!


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Posted on Sep 11, 2011 at 02:02 AM

Jag, What on earth have you got to lose by trying it. You really have very little understanding of women. and you might start opening up to female company. Thats all I am saying.


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