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Older Women/Younger Men? Posted on Aug 07, 2006 at 09:36 PM
Greetings All, This is something I posted on my profile on my space page and got alot of responses too...maybe some of you would be interested? Check it out and see what you think. I will post the question I had first and then the conclusion I came up with...tell me ladies...if I'm right. --------Question-------- Hello Ladies and Gentlemen, I am back again, this time to stimulate your mind with another thought. I have been thinking about this issue for some time now, so I have decided to ask the people on my friends list their opinion. Why is it more acceptable for Older Men to be with Younger Women, than it is for Older Women to be with Younger Men ? Give me your opinions and thoughts, share with me, I am curious to know from a lady's perspective and even men if you're reading this. Have a Great Day, -Josh -------Conclusion------- Greetings Ladies and Gentlemen I would like to thank all you who participated by sharing your thoughts, opinions and experiences. Your input has given me much insight and many different conclusions: for the sake of time I have summarized the ones I feel are the most important. 1st- The majority of women who responded say the reason it is not more acceptable for a older woman to be a with a younger man is because men are still the rulers of the world. Men still make most of the decisions that affect all of our lives. Historically, women were never viewed as equals to men, but were viewed as lesser and treated as such. Even today, if a woman tries to do what a man does (business, sports, politics, etc.) she is viewed as a threat to the men in power. Today's society is still "sexist" in its attitudes toward women and their actions and even though it has improved greatly, it is still there. For example, if a woman is single and succesful and "doing her own thing", she may be called a "bad woman". If she dates multiple men, she would be viewed as a "bad woman", where as a man is called a "player". Which is a good thing for a man, but a negative for a woman. 2nd- The overwhelming majority of responses say that age is just a number. If two people like each other, get along together- and enjoy each others company, what does age matter, as long as they are having fun. So women don't view men's age as a problem, the problem is the maturity level of that particular man. 3rd- From your responses as women get closer to their late thirties and early forties, start to reach their "sexual peak". Yes, sex is part of life so don't offended..how else did you get on this earth. Many of your responses said that younger guys are more active and fun to be with. The responses on older men say- they are couch potatoes and don't have enough stamina to keep up with them. Funny...but apparently true. So, older women are attracted to younger men for those qualities, among other things. 4th- The Downsides: Apparently, some younger men view the older women as a "notch on their belt" or "older women they have hooked up with". In general some women don't mind this, but most do, so this is also a negative. Also, the maturity level- women mature faster than men. Younger men may not be as stable or mature in their thoughts as older men are. This is a primary reason why younger women desire older men. They are more relationship oriented and more likely to be stable in life, etc. Finally, trying to build a relationship with a younger man is more difficult because of the maturity level, not the age. You can be 40 and have the mind of a 20 year old and vice versa. Now, since I didn't see any male perspectives, I will share some of my thoughts on this topic with you. First, I was surprised to see how many of you responded to this question/topic. I have noticed that it is more acceptable for older men to be with younger women. I see it everyday. I don't see as many younger men with older women though. It's true, that it is becoming more acceptable in today's society- just look at some of the terms many women are using on their my space profiles...Milf and Cougar for example. Both of these words and concepts have made it more acceptable for older women to have relationships with younger men, meaning, they have helped it become more mainstream. They even have websites devoted to the subjects, so that tells you it is becoming more acceptable. In my opinion, it shouldn't matter It is up to the people involved in the relationship to decide what's best. If the man and woman like each other, then isn't that enough. I think women want to love someone, have relationships and settle down, especially when they get older and more mature in their thoughts and actions. Some girls and women just wanna have fun, and apparently that is a quality that younger men have. All women want to go out and enjoy themselves- in and out of the bedroom- and if it takes a younger man to bring out her fun side then so be it. We all want courtship, companionship and stimulation and it really shouldn't matter who it comes from. So I say...do what makes YOU happy! Take care, Josh ------------------------------ I hope you enjoyed...let me know what you think.