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Posted on Oct 08, 2007 at 08:22 PM

What has happened to respect for women in this world? Does anyone else share my pet peeve in this regard? Example: you talk with someone for several weeks via email, texts, instant messenger and phone. You plan a meeting, and then they disappear!! Just plain disappear. You finally hear from them the night before the "date" only to have them tell you that they are either married or have begun dating someone else a few weeks prior and were too chicken to tell you!! I simple do not understand this type of disrespect and behavior. Younger men want to be with older women and yet they have no concept of how to treat us! And they wonder why "men" get such a bad rap. Its deserved. Now... any young men out there have an opinion on this topic?

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Posted on Oct 28, 2007 at 03:32 PM

I agree totally with you Worthylady, i'm NOT one of them but can certainly agree that these guys are out here. lol All could say if i would or could help with that is pay close attention to what they say throughout your communication to them, keep track of the answers and repeat your questions at a later date to see if their answers have changed at all. If your using a messenger at this time, pay attention to any delay in the answers. Also look for someone who at least trying to be original or as much as an individual as possible out here. lol He should respect and except any time delays in meeting you that you request as we all know it's what's on the inside that counts and the more communication before you meet the more accurate your character or his would be.


These are just my own thoughts and doesn't mean i'm right, still friends? :) :)
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Posted on Oct 25, 2007 at 07:01 AM

Sensual, Did you or didn't you make the comment about traveling and being treated with respect? Somebody did and I was just curious about how traveling and being treated with respect had anything to do with each other. It just seemed very convoluted to me. This had NOTHING to do with being rash nor jumping to any wild and crazy conclusions. It was a question. All you had to do was answer it and not be so RUDE about it! Love & Peace, Dreamer

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Posted on Oct 23, 2007 at 05:04 AM

What on Earth are you going on about, hidesertdreamer? I was replying to Worth's main question, not yours! And for that matter, where was there any mention in my reply to things concerning travel? I'd please ask you to not be so rash, and think and actually read through my comments before you jump to wild and crazy conclusions.

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Posted on Oct 21, 2007 at 07:08 AM

Sensual, If you are referring to me when you mention travel, what has that got to do with finding a man or being treated with respect? How did you arrive at that rather convoluted conclusion? As for manners, courtesy and respect in general, once you reach the age of majority, YOU own your actions. If you are an ill-mannered, disrespectful person, you'll pretty much get nowhere. If you feel you lack certain social skills, LEARN them. Love & Peace, Dreamer

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Posted on Oct 19, 2007 at 06:57 AM

Re: worthylady47 write: Its very telling that only one younger man took the initiative to add a comment. Thank you, SensualHeights. The other man who left a reply.. well.. that needs no explanation. As for traveling, I wish I had the $$ to do that, however, you shouldn't need to globe trot to find those who know how to treat you with respect. That would be a very sad commentary for the way Americans are raising their males if only they are lacking those social skills! Perhaps I've just been the unfortunate recipient of this character trait. Ahhh well. Your welcome, though I fear it's not just American social skills that are lasping, but rather it appears to be world over!!


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Posted on Oct 18, 2007 at 09:31 AM

Helena! :-> I'm for sure southward bound. I have to go to Alabama to pick up some new business equipment and then it's probably the Gulf coast for the winter. That's as far ahead as I'm looking at the moment...lol. I'll keep you posted though. I will be developing a travel blog and will send you the link when it's live. How are you? Love & Peace, Dreamer

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Posted on Oct 15, 2007 at 11:31 AM

Its very telling that only one younger man took the initiative to add a comment. Thank you, SensualHeights. The other man who left a reply.. well.. that needs no explanation. As for traveling, I wish I had the $$ to do that, however, you shouldn't need to globe trot to find those who know how to treat you with respect. That would be a very sad commentary for the way Americans are raising their males if only they are lacking those social skills! Perhaps I've just been the unfortunate recipient of this character trait. Ahhh well.

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Posted on Oct 10, 2007 at 02:44 PM

Lack of respect is an apt. title for it; but it's also a lack of maturity. The world of online and cyber does seem to have created a new generation of "pretenders" or "fantasists" in todays world, with total lack of consideration and ethical morale, concerned with feeling and emotion. It's about compromise and simply, good communication. Alas, a lot of the males around here aren't instilled with that; so it's good to find and converse with one who (hopefully) is. You don't need to ask them for out and out total dedication, but it might help if you ask them their agenda, and let them know straight away, your simply not their to play mother or indulge in fantasy, but to engage in reality!

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Posted on Oct 10, 2007 at 06:35 AM

Hey Helena, Yes, I agree with that. The "real" world does offer more appealing choices without most of the crap it seems we are exposed to online. Travel is the key and since I will be traveling extensively starting next month, it should get very interesting..lol. There is a couple I found who specialize in bus/mh caravans into some of the more exciting and fun parts of Mexico. Can't wait! Cancun anyone? ;-> Love & Peace, Dreamer

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Posted on Oct 09, 2007 at 06:47 PM

In the real world, they used to call that scenario being stood up. Not much different in cyberland.....except I guess we feel more vulnerable because we get attached to what we believe is the "heart" of the person we are going to meet. I too had a similiar experience. We spoke on the phone almost every day, sometimes several times a day....for a MONTH. He started having problems with his business and was in financial trouble. I liked him a lot but having never met the guy, I didn't offer him any assistance. After a couple more complaining phone calls, he stopped calling and wouldn't return my calls. Who knows why he vanished? He should have just sent me a quick email. That would have been better than being left hanging. Sorry to say, but it happens all the time. The only solution I've found is a concept that's pretty old school: Until I have a commitment.....as in an invitation to cohabit, I belong to NO ONE. And I shall continue to date whomever I please until my needs are met. Seeing is believing and don't let any guy on the internet manipulate you to think otherwise.

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Posted on Oct 09, 2007 at 06:14 AM

I agree with you Worthy...it keeeps happening to me and other women I know too. My heartfelt opinion is that this "virtual" dating world encourages too much fantasy, too many choices(sensory overload) and a severe lack of any "real" dating etiquette. Most of these guys are only looking to fulfill a fantasy anyway. Ask a majority of them and they've never even had an agegap relationship. I, for one, am pretty fed up with the whole thing. I have a "real" life that is full, mostly happy and am looking foward to many great adventures ahead. This is WAY too time consuming for the return I get. All of my agegap relationships just happened. I didn't go looking for them. They found me. Online dating has been a huge disappointmet to me. I'm so sorry you are having these diffiulties. You're in good company....lol. Love & Peace, Dreamer

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