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Posted on Dec 02, 2011 at 06:13 AM

Following is a set of 30 "rules" that was featured in a 1995 "self-help" book, co-authored by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. 1.Be a “Creature” Unlike Any Other 2.Don't Talk to a Man First (and Don't Ask Him to Dance) 3.Don't Stare at Men or Talk Too Much 4.Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date 5.Don't Call Him & Rarely Return His Calls 6.Always End Phone Calls and dates First 7.Don't Accept a Saturday Night Date after Wednesday. 8.Fill Up Your Time before the Date 9.How to Act on Dates 1,2, and 3 10.How to Act on Dates 4 through Commitment Time 11.ALWAYS end the date first 12.Stop Dating Him if He Doesn't Buy You a Romantic Gift for Your Birthday or Valentine's Day 13.Don’t See Him More than Once or Twice a Week 14.No More than Casual Kissing on the First Date 15.Don't Rush into Sex, Wait at Least Three Dates 16.Don't Tell Him What to Do 17.Let Him Take the Lead 18.Don't Expect a Man to Change or Try to Change Him 19.Don’t Open Up Too Fast 20.Be Honest but Mysterious 21.Accentuate the Positive & Other Rules for Personal Ads 22.Don’t Live with a Man (or Leave Your Things in His Apartment) 23.Don't Date a Married Man 24.Slowly Involve Him in Your Family & Other Rules for Women with Children 25.Practice, Practice, Practice! (or, Getting Good at The Rules) 26.Even if You're Engaged or Married, You Still Need The Rules 27.Do The Rules, Even when Your Friends & Parents Think It's Nuts 28.Be Smart and Other Rules for Dating in High School 29.Take Care of Yourself and Other Rules for Dating in College 30.NEXT! & Other Rules for Dealing with Rejection 31.Don't Discuss The Rules with Your Therapist. 32.Don't Break The Rules! 33.Do The Rules and You’ll Live Happily Ever After! 34.Love Only Those Who Love You 35.Be Easy to Live With http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rules LOL. The interesting part to me about "The Rules" is that generally women will never actively use them. They don't need it, as it contradicts what they're instinctually attracted to. They'll get what they want so long as they keep up their looks, for the most part. The day women think and behave like men is the day "The Rules" might actually mean something.

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Posted on Aug 09, 2012 at 11:30 AM

what your age im 59

 


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Posted on Dec 12, 2011 at 05:04 AM

Quoting Gig0lo:

What would the Priest, Pastor, Rabbi, Mufti Congressman, MP say about this?


He would say " I dont care what they say...The comb over works for me" Lol!


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Posted on Dec 07, 2011 at 10:41 AM

What would the Priest, Pastor, Rabbi, Mufti Congressman, MP say about this?

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Posted on Dec 05, 2011 at 02:14 PM

Quoting litenbrite:

HPD, They sound like Rules for a lonley and unspontainious life to me, What about looking at someone as an Individual and basing compatability between what and who they are. But of course that would be for a relationship. I have never dated anyone that I havnt had a longer term relationship with, The  shortest being 9 months and the longest a 20 year Marriage. So what do I know about the Dating scene, I presume they are different.



Well, LB...according to the WIKI article, the author credits "The Rules" for enriching her (2nd) marraige. So every girl is different, as you say.

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Posted on Dec 04, 2011 at 07:49 PM

HPD let's take your stated rules and substitute HE for SHE and it will be the same difference.  Rigidity is like morbidity and non-productive but a little fluidity in attitude and mobility in action and life changes drastically.


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Posted on Dec 04, 2011 at 10:11 AM

HPD the link says everything. It's all based on the erroneous stereotypical premise that men are 'hunters' so we all prefer women who are hard to get.Wrong.We're hunters when we're out hunting (wether that's literally for food in caveman days or these days just earning a living)but looking for a wife is a totally different thing and most of us want a woman who's young,willing and who wants us from the start and shows it.The example which Ellen Fein gave, concerning how her typical modern day feminist type stuck up approach,landed her a new husband,probably says more about his acceptance of such treatment,than validation of her ideas. Here's an example of some 'proper' flirting with a girl who wants to be flirted with,made in better less pc days and I've got no doubt that Ellen Fein would view those old fashioned ways,of the pre feminist era,as desperate on the part of the girls of that time and the blokes as being a lot of chauvanistic mysogynists. I'm sure that Ellen Fein's ideas were meant in the sense of,as was suggested within one of the reactions to it,as a how to guide to play games and toy with men and (what the feminists would see as) 'empowering' women not setting the feminist cause back 50 years.That would actually need most women today to be like the bus clippy portrayed in the film clip not ones who follow Ellen Fein's Feminist 'Rules',related to playing hard to get,which if a girl subjected me to I'd just walk away not offer to marry her.If only I'd have been old enough to get a job driving a bus during the 1970's.LOL. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iNcoBq0EKzA&feature=related 1.18-2.40

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Posted on Dec 04, 2011 at 12:55 AM

HPD, They sound like Rules for a lonley and unspontainious life to me, What about looking at someone as an Individual and basing compatability between what and who they are. But of course that would be for a relationship. I have never dated anyone that I havnt had a longer term relationship with, The  shortest being 9 months and the longest a 20 year Marriage. So what do I know about the Dating scene, I presume they are different.


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