tash_jade you handled that well. I can tell you that the site encourages us to contact others to begin communication. If you hold your mouse over the lists at the top of the page, they become drop down menus. Then over Search the drop down menu includes a quick search you can use to find those who are local to you, or meet your standards you set in the search. If you go to My Account (which has no drop down menu) and click on it, you will see a news feed of members recent activity, and can find someone there also. Click on the persons name itself to go to the profile. The name will turn blue if you click on it successfully. You can like people you want to talk to later, and they will appear on the My Lists dropdown under My favorites.
Most likey, men will contact you. In this event, you can click on My Account, and under your picture will be your Inbox where you can retreive your messages.
I hope these basic ideas will help you. If I did not answer your question well, please let me know and I will try to address your specific concern. I am new here myself, but I figured these things out, so I am passing them along. Good luck, and I hope you find just the kind of man which you seek.
what do you mean to easy to see through? all i asked for was some tips on how to use this site. i wouldnt be here if i didnt know what i wanted. im sorry if you think im fake or just doing this for reasons other then finding someone older. i know what i want and im here to try find it. now if you have some actual tips on how to navigate this website that would be great. thankyou.