well i think being on a site like this might be a start. But for me, it is dealing with my own personal emotions and insecurities and finding something that i like to do and then do it. For example, i started to play golf (summer and fall, not now) and also started to play pool. I now enjoy these things and i am having fun doing them. This gets me out and being with other people not to "look for a woman" but to just get out and stop just focusing inward.
Also, I met a lady and we really enjoyed our times together. We are now just friends, so that's why i am now here :). Good luck to you - i think we all can feel your pain and struggle but just don't ever give up.