How can you be serious??? Your looking for no head games, a lasting relationship, yet the relationship your in (marriage) is just that, so long as both partners are willing. I agree you do need to take care of the home front first. how could anyone want to have a lasting relationship with someone who is already taken, and obviously not ready for one.
I THINK YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF THE HOME FRONT PROBLEMS FIRST BEFORE YOU GO OUT AND TRY TO FIND SOME SIDE DISHES. THERE ARE WOMEN OUT THERE THAT ARE MARRIED AND LOOKING FOR SOMESOME, AND THERE IS A WORD FOR THEM. THE SAME WORD I CALL MY EX...
Your profile says that you are married. As a man, I am presuming that this is what you want, since you are already in a binding, legal relationship. I hear what you are saying, but what's a guy to expect? Are you separated? That would make a difference, in my opinion.
Unless you are willing to leave your husband, I fear that you may only get these superficial requests as the partner may feel that this is what you want. Maybe if you modify your profile and say that I am married, but really unhappy....I don't know what else to say, but good-luck.